Comparing Yourself to Others, Solved

We all compare ourselves to other people—our friends, coworkers, strangers on the internet—and most of the time, it makes us feel like shit. But why do we keep doing it? In this episode of Solved, we dig into the uncomfortable truth behind social comparison, how it quietly ruins our self-worth, and why most of what we envy in others is a projection of our own insecurity.

We also get into the brutal paradox of success, the toxic loop of chasing status, and how the constant measurement of our lives against others is one of the dumbest things we do as a species. If you’ve ever felt not good enough, or like you’re falling behind, this one’s for you.

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Chapters:

0:00 Introduction

5:29 Chapter 1: Evolutionary Roots

16:20The Emotional Toolkit

20:18Chapter 2: Philosophy and Social Comparison

23:31The Buddhist Path

24:58Aristotle

34:34Stoicism

36:24Existentialism

40:06Myths

48:37Chapter 3: The Psychology of Social Comparison

58:54Downward Comparison

1:22:19Chapter 4: Digital Technology and Social Comparison

1:44:20Chapter 5: The 80/20 of Managing Comparison

1:57:40Hidden Costs

1:58:48Takeaways

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