You can change your life and Mel Robbins will show you how. 

Mel is in a category all her own. As one of the most widely booked and followed podcast hosts and authors in the world, she’s sought after by the world’s leading brands and medical professionals for her research-backed tools and motivation. And, at the same time, Mel has amassed millions of followers online, with her advice going viral online almost daily.

Her female-led media company produces provocative, life-changing content, with millions of books sold, billions of video views, six #1 audiobooks, and the #1 podcast on Audible. Her work has been translated into 41 languages and has changed the lives of millions of people worldwide. 

And despite all that, Mel is one of the most down to earth and relatable people you’ll ever know. 

Probably because she learned everything she teaches the hard way: by first screwing up her own life, and out of necessity, discovering the tools and research that transformed her life and got her to where she is today.

In the Mel Robbins Podcast, Mel gets more personal than ever, welcoming you into her life and taking you behind the scenes in real time. Every episode is packed with deeply relatable topics, tactical advice, hilarious screwups, compelling conversations, and the tools and inspiration you need to create a better life.

Tune in and buckle up – your life is about to change. New episodes of The Mel Robbins Podcast drop every Monday and Thursday.

To learn more about Mel, go deeper into every episode, find the resources and research she mentions, or submit a topic or question, check out www.melrobbins.com

The Mel Robbins Podcast

Welcome to an exciting new masterclass on designing the life of your dreams.

First, you’ll learn the process for identifying your own North Star, why this is important at the beginning of creating your new life, and how to use your North Star to guide you in the process of designing your life.

Next, you’ll dive deep into the 3-part framework: Emulate, Assimilate, and Innovate.

This framework is the backbone of the University of Southern California’s world-renowned Popular Music major taught at their Thornton School of Music.

It’s the creative process artists use to create songs, movies, and video games. The framework has helped launch Grammy-winning artists and touring musicians for the past decade.

I just learned about it a week ago and was so blown away that I had to share it with you.

When an artist creates a song, they begin with a blank piece of paper.

When you design your life, you are an artist with a blank canvas.

Today, you’re invited to tap into the artist within and learn how to find your North Star and use the creative process to bring your vision for your future to life.

Xo Mel 

 
In this episode, you’ll learn:


3:00: Hear me describe the woman who recently became MY North Star.
6:40: Choosing this kind of person you want to choose as your North Star is best.
8:00: Shout out to Chris Sampson from the Thornton School of Music for these pillars.
10:15: If you skip Step One in this process, you’re making your life much harder.
14:15: Here’s how Jennifer Aniston made her way into our conversation. 
18:10: We start unpacking what Step One of the process looks like, first with music.
21:00: Think of the space in between where you are and want to be as special. 
22:15: Try using “want” instead of “need” when it comes to goals and see what happens.
25:20: This is what I did when I first started to dig myself out, but it took me much longer.
28:00: Here’s why this person is my North Star and why he puts a fire in my belly.
31:15: Let’s define the first two steps in this important process and how they’re different.
34:00: How do you know when you’re done and you’ve become your own North Star?
41:45: Kendall’s biggest takeaway from working through this process. 
42:45: The way I sign out on all my podcasts was inspired by this woman.
 
 
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3 Steps To Finding Your North Star: An Exciting New Approach To Designing Your Life

I shared the "Let Them Theory" on social media, and it went CRAZY VIRAL. 15 million views, 11,000 comments. Today, it’s your turn to learn this mindset trick.
I’ve been using this technique for a while, so I know firsthand how powerful it is.

The "Let Them Theory" is so simple, you’re going to get it immediately.

And I have some great stories and examples to share with you, because there are three very different ways you can use it.

I can bottom line this in one sentence: 

When you "Let Them" do whatever it is that they want to do, it creates more control and emotional peace for you and a better relationship with the people in your life.

Xo Mel 

In this episode, you’ll learn:
2:30: My overfunctioning anxiety kicked in, until this happened.
6:30: Dr. Amy Johnson gives the best metaphor that explains our need to control.
9:20: Why do we get so upset about what we can’t do a damn thing about?
10:30: These three reasons explain why we try to control. 
11:20: Two reasons why your parents and partners are so controlling.
17:00: There are times like these when the “Let Them” rule does NOT apply.
19:00: How are you supposed to let go when you’re a parent?
24:30: Can you relate to this listener who’s worn down from her expectations?
28:00: Stop making up stories about why people do what they do, and just ask.
32:10: When you’re constantly rescuing people, here’s what you teach them.
35:00: Are you actually in a relationship with a real person, or a vision?
37:15: One way we try to control someone is through jealousy.
40:00: Growing apart from a good friend? Here’s how to handle it.
43:30: It’s not your responsibility to make sure everyone else is never hurt.
 
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The “Let Them Theory”: A Life Changing Mindset Hack That 15 Million People Can’t Stop Talking About

If you feel that something’s missing from your life but have no idea exactly what’s missing or where to begin looking for it, today’s episode will help you reconnect with your power and find greater meaning in your life.

Dr. Thema Bryant is the current president of the American Psychological Association. She trained at both Duke and Harvard, published multiple best-selling books, and has dedicated decades of her life to researching how we connect with each other by first connecting back to ourselves.

Her work has been so profound for me personally that, right off the bat in this conversation, I get emotional.

Dr. Thema is a national treasure. Her presence and her voice will put you at ease. And she has the unique gift of weaving together psychological strategies for healing with the deeper spiritual cornerstones of faith and trusting in "that which cannot be explained."

In this episode, you’ll learn:

-6 signs that you are disconnected from yourself

-what it means to be "psychologically wandering"

-how to handle people in your life who are chronically irritable and angry

-the surprising signs of "irritable depression"

-the three words to say to yourself before you can begin healing

-why self-care is critical if you are in a toxic workplace (you are more than your labor)

-why you need to stop talking about your significant other and your boss in therapy.

-where to find therapy when you can’t afford it.

You are so much more than a highway for other people to get where they’re going. With Dr. Thema’s wisdom and tactics, you’ll reconnect with yourself and take the wheel on your own incredible journey in life.

Xo Mel 

In this episode, you’ll learn:
 
2:45: I got really emotional when I acknowledged how my life used to be.
6:30: 6 powerful signs that you are disconnected from yourself and what that means.
9:00: Even if you’ve never felt home with yourself, you can learn to be home with yourself.
11:00: The West African fable that gave me chills and should be required reading for everyone.
16:00: This is the first and most powerful step to your “homecoming.”
22:00: Do people with an attitude actually have depression?
25:20: What is healing, anyway?
27:00: How do we handle people in our lives who are irritable, frustrated, and angry?
30:00: It’s a big mistake if you wait for this before you start your own healing.
36:30: How to know if you need therapy or you need spirituality.
41:00: How do you heal from a lifetime of messaging that you’re not worthy?
44:00: This is how you handle working in a toxic work environment.
48:50: Look to these resources if you can’t afford therapy. 
 
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6 Signs You’re Disconnected From Your Power and How to Get It Back: Life-Changing Advice From the Remarkable Dr. Thema Bryant

Imagine how liberating it would be to not care about what other people think of you. You’d take more risks. You’d stop holding yourself back. You’d make more money and have more fun. 

That’s what happened to me when I learned the (not-so-subtle) art of not giving a sh*t.

This is the best episode I've done so far.

I mean it. The best.

It’s hilarious. It’s relatable. It’s packed with takeaways and research. It’s entertaining and personal, and yet I still manage to empower you with 4 simple ways to stop caring about what other people think.

Want to know what life looks like when you don’t care?

 I’ll go first.

You’ll hear some outrageous, not-safe-for-work stories about your friend, Mel.

And as you’re laughing at me, I’ll be laughing at me, too. One of the benefits of not caring about what other people think is that you don’t take yourself too seriously.

Why? Because you have much more important things to care about.

Xo Mel 

In this episode, you’ll learn:

4:00: Hilarious story of me taking my shirt off at an LA restaurant.
8:30: Christine says you’re not supposed to show up to meetings this way.
14:30: Here’s why wearing ballet flats would have been a failure for me.
16:00: Christine’s profound point about judgment really opened my eyes.
19:00: When you stop worrying about how you look, others around you will too.
23:00: What I think about ugly troll comments so that I can rise above it.
27:00: If you’re part of a gossip loop, here’s what you need to do.
28:00: It’s not normal to wear a child-size space suit in front of your students?
34:00: Jessie could not stop laughing after I did this.
36:00: How can you give honest feedback and not sound like a jerk?
38:00: The wake-up moment for me around relationships.
38:30: My four rules about how not to give a sh*t about stupid stuff.
48:30: Kendall revealed something to me that I still can’t believe.



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4 Simple Ways to Stop Giving a Sh*t About What Other People Think of You

I am thrilled to share this conversation with you. It is packed with practical strategies that will help the people in your life who may be struggling. 
 
Dr. Lisa Damour is a clinical psychologist and author of three New York Times bestsellers.  She earned degrees from both Yale and the University of Michigan and has more than 30 years of experience working with teens and families.
 
Her latest book, The Emotional Lives of Teenagers, has been nothing short of life changing.
 
Today you will learn…
 
-five words you need to know when someone you love is struggling
-the signs that tell you when someone is “costly coping”
-what to say that will prevent a conversation from turning into a battle
-why your kids dump all their emotional garbage on you
-when it’s time for a therapist
-why struggles are signs of being “mentally WELL”!
 
I started using Dr. Lisa’s strategies with my family the moment we finished recording this episode. They work! 
 
You will leave this episode full of the resources you deserve. Plus, you’re going to love Dr. Damour (and how hopeful she makes you feel) as much as I do. 
 
Xo Mel 
 
And if you need to take the reins in your own life, sign up for my free Take Control mini-course to get inspiring support, guidance, and motivation.
 
In this episode, you’ll learn:

4:00: Two things psychologists look for when assessing mental health.
5:15: Too many people are not distinguishing between these qualities.
6:15: When exactly IS adolescence?
8:30: We’ve had the wrong idea about what it means to be mentally healthy.
12:45: What’s the difference between a “normal” reaction vs one to be concerned about?
15:10: Do you know someone who is managing by “costly coping.”
16:45: So how do you help your kid?
20:00: This is how you don’t turn a conversation with your child into a fight.
24:00: Take these steps when it’s time to confront your teen.
27:30: Here’s how I wish I’d handled Chris’s depression differently.
30:20: Let’s look at the difference in emotions between genders.
34:15: How do you help people in your life who just can’t let it go?
39:00: Do your kids do this, too? It’s called the “defense of externalization.”
41:40: This is how my own mother set me straight.
44:00: How do you know when it’s time to get a therapist involved?
46:30: Can’t find a therapist for your child? Use this resource.
48:00: Here’s how the lockdown impacted our kids. 
54:30: When are suicide thoughts normal and when are they concerning?
58:00: What happened to our nervous system during this time?
1:00:00: These are the concerns of Dr. Damour that we should watch for.
1:01:30: When do healthy habits become an obsession?
1:08:15: How do you let kids have emotions without letting them run the home?
1:14:00: Here is the most important thing you can offer your teen.
 
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How To Help Anyone In Your Life Who’s Struggling - Fantastic Strategies From A Yale-Educated Psychologist

You know what you want and how to start.
 
But you never make progress.
 
Here’s my wake up call for you today:
 
What’s holding you back is never what you think.
 
Today I am coaching a woman who says:
 
I can’t make myself do what I need to do. I feel like I’m in quicksand. Every time I try to move…I sink.
 
She has:
-put on an extra 30 pounds
-left her relationship with herself in the gutter
-no longer does the things that make her happy
-broken promises to herself time and again
 
I bet you can relate. 
 
This is a must-listen if you want to: 
 
be healthier…
go back to school..
find your dream home…
make new friends…
go for that promotion…
write a book…
land your dream job…
 
But you just can’t make yourself take the actions you need to take.
 
Stop frustrating yourself by trying to solve the wrong problem. 
 
Your dreams matter. 
 
Today you’re learning where to find the right solution.
 
Pull up a seat for a conversation with a listener like you as we uncover what’s really holding her back. 
 
Xo Mel 
 
In this episode, you’ll learn:

2:15: This metaphor will help you understand why you’re stuck.
6:00: I bet you can relate to Ricki’s story. 
8:15: The bad news that made Ricki’s face drop.
11:30: Here’s why you don’t believe your life will get better.
13:30: What happened to you earlier in your life that broke you?
18:15: Maybe you resist a part of your life because it links to something painful.
21:30: When acute grief turns into chronic, underlying grief.
31:00: You can’t invite love, joy, and connection, if you’re closed to it.
33:15: I get where Ricki is, because I used to close myself off in the same way.
39:30: Here’s my assignment for Ricki that I know she needs to do.
41:00: Give yourself permission to be happy again by connecting to this.
45:00: Here’s why I truly believe the best years of your life are ahead.
46:30: Ricki recorded an incredible update for you and me.
 
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The Best Years of Your Life Are Ahead of You: A No BS Approach to Feeling Stuck

In this episode, you’re going to learn how to decode body language from one of the world’s leading experts on the topic.
 
Janine Driver has been trained by the FBI, CIA, and one of the world’s top hostage negotiators.
 
When a criminal case grabs our attention, every news network calls Janine to analyze body language and critical verbal cues that suspects, politicians, and celebrities are sending so we can tell when somebody is lying.
 
If you love True Crime, you’re going to love this episode, because it’s a masterclass from an expert who’s spent over three decades decoding body language for law enforcement agencies around the country.
 
She will teach you which hand gestures indicate that somebody may be lying, why you should grab your chin during a high-level meeting, why you should never shrug your shoulders if you want to be convincing, and the million-dollar question that you should ask at the end of every single interview.
 
If you’re dating, you’ll learn all kinds of incredible tactics, like why you should never sit directly across from someone on a first date. 
 
This is an incredibly interesting, entertaining, and surprising take on how to build confidence and be smarter about the subconscious signals that other people are sending you all day long. 
 
Xo Mel 
 

In this episode, you’ll learn:
3:15: Janine’s early childhood trauma saved her life as a teen.
6:00: So how do you go from being a profiler with the FBI to a body language expert?
9:30: Which three groups of people can read body language really well?
10:00: The hand gesture that says “maybe” even when you’re hearing “yes.”
12:30: Listen for the word “left” when you hear it from someone else.
13:40: How Janine knew Casey Anthony was lying about her daughter’s death.
19:30: What’s your behavioral fingerprint? Here’s how to figure it out.
20:00: What is the best question to ask at the end of an interview?
21:15: How men state what they need versus how women do.
27:00: This is why a shoulder shrug might be a huge clue.
31:40: The power of eye contact, unpacked.
34:15: What the heck is lip locking and what does it mean when someone’s doing it?
36:15: When you’re trying to get the truth out of somebody, use the pause after “don’t”.
37:45: Do this to get your kids to tell you the truth.
42:30: Ever been interrupted by someone in a meeting? Here’s what you do!
47:15: Use this hack to look more confident. 
48:00: Janine tells me what my pointy chin means.
48:45: Know the difference between Clark Kent and Superman, and you’re all set.
52:00: This is the BEST dating advice I’ve heard in a long time.
54:15: Here’s how detail-oriented people drink their water.
56:30: Next time you’re on a date or an email, tilt the coaster. 
58:00: What if you don’t FEEL confident when you use these “non-verbals?”
1:02:00: Why belly buttons matter more than the eyes when reading someone.
1:04:00: Nervous on a date or an interview? This hack releases nervous energy.
 
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FBI Trained Expert Explains How to Read Body Language

Last week, I learned a really cool trick to help you go with your gut.

I guarantee you’ve never heard gut decisions explained this way before. Because I stumbled upon it in a very random way—while touring colleges with our son Oakley!

We hit 5 schools in 4 days, and over the course of that time, it hit me. Holy smokes, that's the perfect hack for making big decisions.

You can use it anytime you feel torn, uncertain, or scared about how people might feel.

What you’re about to learn is so helpful and memorable, you’ll turn to it over and over again.

This is one of my favorite kinds of episodes, because I’m going to put you right at the scene—the moment I had the epiphany. I’ll give you all the hilarious details, and there’s even a part of the story where, I am embarrassed to say, I acted pretty cringe-worthy.

And that’s not all; as I was taping this episode, two friends chimed in with stories of their own.

So I asked them to jump on the mic and share them with you. Two stories about a moment in their lives that’s so relatable—when they ALMOST didn’t go with their gut and looking back, they’re thankful they did.

Because going with your gut always changes the trajectory of your life. It just does.

That’s why I don’t like the term "trust" your gut.

It’s not about trust. You KNOW your gut is right. You’re just scared to go with it.

So join me, Oakley, and two of my friends. I’m taking you on an entertaining and profound tour today.

Xo Mel 
 
In this episode, you’ll learn:
 
3:30: The moment of my junior year in high school that changed my future.
7:00: I am not proud of this mother moment when I lost it.
11:00: The question Oakley asked is what we all do when we give up our power.
14:15: Here’s what a hard no “feels” like for Oakley.
15:45: Do you feel a “yes” in your body like this too?
17:00: What our brilliant tour guide did when he separated parents from students.
20:30: When it comes to big decisions, step away and go on your own tour. 
22:00: Here’s what a “no” and a “yes” usually feels like in your body. 
24:00: You’re going to love Amy’s “next big thing” story and how she just knew.
31:00: We all have an opportunity in our lives to use this powerful tool.
33:00: And if it doesn’t work out the way you thought it would? Listen to this.
33:45: Do you have the courage to do this?
36:30: So what do you do when you hear the NO louder than the YES?
40:30: Jessie literally followed her heart and became her own “tour guide.”
42:30: Stop staying you don't “trust your gut” and start saying this instead.
43:00: Take time to do this EVERY day, but especially when you have a big decision.
 

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Stop Trying to "Trust Your Gut." Do This Instead. Works Way Better!

Oh…sometimes life is a real doozy.

You make all these plans, and boom. You step right into a pile of you-know-what. And then you realize that pile was there all along—you just missed it.

Which brings us to the topic of today’s episode: making hard decisions and moving on from hard relationships.

How do you move forward when… 

You feel so torn about what to do.

You don’t trust yourself.

You’re scared to make the wrong decision.

What’s best for you will impact the people you love.

How do you decide your next big move when everything you worked for evaporates before your eyes? 

How do you stop thinking about your ex, especially when you might bump into them at any moment?

I’ll tell you how.

Pull up a seat and join me because you are going to love the listener, Katrina, who I’m coaching today. Her question was, "Should I stay or should I go?"

By the end of this episode, you’ll not only have the answer to whatever question YOU are grappling with, but you'll also have so many decision-making tools in your back pocket that you’re going to need more pockets.

Today, you’re getting strategies to help you

Live your life with no regrets.
Keep your cool when you see your ex.
Bounce back after rejection.
Stop feeling guilty about following your dreams.
Make courageous decisions.
The biggest takeaway? Knowing the difference between what’s right for you and the fear that’s keeping you from it

When something is right, even if it’s scary as hell to go for it, you’ll only ever regret not having tried.

Xo Mel 

PS - If you’re looking to ditch your insecurities for a powerful way to launch forward on your dreams, I’ve got just the thing for you. Sign up for my FREE Take Control mini course here.

 
In this episode, you’ll learn:
 
2:20: Ever been dumped? Then you’ll relate to what Katrina is going through.
4:00: The kind of decisions that change your life don’t happen in your brain.
6:30: When you have a big decision to make, ask yourself this question.
8:15: Holding yourself back because you feel guilty? Listen to this.
11:00: The single biggest quality you want in any partner? It’s always this.
14:00: There are always red flags before a breakup, whether you saw them or not.
16:15: You deserve nothing less than these qualities from your partner.
19:00: Try role playing with a friend to help you get the closure you crave.
23:45: Use this strategy to help you make a weighty decision.
27:40: Takeaway #1: Stop running away. Think of it this way instead.
30:15: Takeaway #2: If you want closure, you have to do these two things.
30:30: Takeaway #3: If you’re going to hold yourself back, own it. Don’t blame others.
31:00: Takeaway #4: You’re making it much harder in your head.
32:00: Takeaway #5: As soon as somebody doesn’t want you, they’re not your person.
33:30: Takeaway #6: Please stop doing this after a breakup.
35:00: Takeaway #7: If it’s not love, it’s a lesson.
35:30: Takeaway #8: Don’t be caught off guard by preparing ahead of time.
37:00: Takeaway #9: You don’t need someone else to feel complete.
38:00: Takeaway #10: Don’t let your fears hold you back.
 
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How to Make Hard Choices: Practical Tips for When Sh*t Gets Real

At some point, the you-know-what is going to hit the fan.

And it happened to me the other morning when I was driving my husband to his colonoscopy.

This is the first episode without a video version because I recorded it from my iPhone after dropping my husband off at the hospital.

I promised to take you into my life; I just didn't expect it to be as a stressful situation was unfolding in real time.

When it comes to dealing with stress, best-selling psychotherapist and researcher Harriet Lerner says that being an underfunctioner or an overfunctioner is your patterned response to dealing with the alarm in your body.

It probably doesn’t surprise you that I am what researchers call an "Overfunctioner." 

My husband, Chris, is an "Underfunctioner," especially on those days when he’s on the way to a medical procedure.

And learning the way YOU react to stress is a game-changer for your relationships.

An overfunctioner like me allows the alarm in my body to take over in stressful situations, becoming triggered and anxious.

And the only way to calm the alarm is to bark orders, manage the phone calls, organize the activities, make the appointments, plan the meals, and take on all the responsibilities because it gives me a sense of control.

It may be my superpower, but it also makes me a royal pain in the a$$ and takes away the chance for Chris to feel empowered.

The way Chris deals with stress is more chill and very methodical, which frustrates the hell out of me.

Listen today as we work through these two different ways of dealing with a stressful family situation so that you can understand your own approach better and, more importantly, how to ask for what you need from others before you drive them nuts.

And if you’re ready to take the next right step to live your life with more confidence and no regrets, this is your time.

Sign up for my exclusive signature course, Launch with Mel Robbins. It’s available for registration only through May 4, so grab your spot today!

Learn all the exciting details and sign up here!

Xo Mel 
 
In this episode, you’ll learn:

3:00: Let me set the scene for you before everything started blowing up.
4:30: Here’s how I set myself up to fail the night before.
7:15: Then life kicks in big time and cue the mom guilt flood gates.
10:40: Here’s what overfunctioning stress looks like in real life. Can you relate?
14:30: If you don’t catch yourself in this state, your relationships pay the price.
23:00: Chris nails the good, the bad, and the ugly side of overfunctioning. 
24:15: I thank Harriet Lerner for her research that helps me understand myself.
26:30: Here’s how my anxiety sees my husband’s “underfunctioning” response to stress.
28:30: And this is how Chris sees my “overfunctioning” response.
32:00: Have a partner who handles stress differently? Here’s how to support each other.
38:00: Chris explains what happens in HIS brain and body when he’s stressed.
42:30: Holy mackerel, I just realized I never stopped to do this in my stress episode.
46:00: This is a tool our couple’s therapist gave us that really helps us to see each other.
 
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Are You an “Over” or “Under” Functioner? A Hilarious and Helpful Guide to YOUR Stress Style

You can be rich.

(Don’t roll your eyes at me; I’m serious.)

This is not what you think.

This episode today is so digestible. So counterintuitive. One of the most enlightening conversations I’ve had with anybody. 

If I had a nickel for every epiphany I had during this episode, I’d be rich.

Most of us have been thinking about money all wrong.

It turns out that the amount of money you have in the bank (or don’t have in the bank) is only a small part of your relationship with money.

I didn’t realize this until I got to sit down with the incredible Ramit Sethi.

He’s a NYT best-selling author and finance advisor with a brand new, top-ranked Netflix series called How to Be Rich, where he coaches real people about how to take control of their financial lives.

He says you’ve been thinking about money all wrong. 

This is one of my favorite conversations ever.

It changed the way I think about money.

If you were told that you need to create a budget and stick to it, Ramit calls BS.

Instead, you’ll learn about your money dials, the only four numbers that matter, the 85% Rule, why the 10 Year Bucket List is so important, the one thing you should NEVER say about yourself, and best of all, what it means to live a Rich Life.

Today’s episode is going to change the way you SEE money, because when you see it differently, you’ll treat it differently.

If you’re feeling crushed by debt, you’re trying to save for a new home, you can’t stop spending, or you’re constantly getting into arguments with your partner over money issues, you need to hear this episode today.

You have to learn to feel confident around money, and Ramit has the practical tools and resources to teach you how.

And if you’re looking for another zero-cost resource to help you change your mindset around finances, I’ve got just the thing.

Sign up for my free training called Take Control with Mel Robbins. 
 
You’ll be joining a quarter million other students who’ve signed up already and you’ll get 3 incredible video trainings plus a 21-page workbook that will help you get the clarity you’re looking for to change the direction of your life. All you have to do is sign up here.
 
Xo Mel 
 
In this episode, you’ll learn:

6:05: Just like me, Ramit has his own story of big-time money loss. 
11:20: Assignment #1: Think back to your 20’s and ask yourself this question. 
12:45: How do your childhood influences impact your beliefs around money?
19:30: This is a truth bomb about money that you need to hear. 
20:15: If you want to live a rich life, you need to do two things.
22:30: My favorite thing to spend money on might seem ridiculous.
24:45: Wondering what most people love to spend money on? 
30:00: Why is it important to come up with a fun vision around money?
33:30: How do you define your “rich life”?
34:30: What is a rich life for someone living in debt?
37:45: I think everyone listening needs to do this fun activity.
40:30: Especially if life is hard right now, THIS is what you have to do..
45:30: Here’s how you step your way closer to your rich life.
47:00: How can you feel in control of something if you don’t understand the details?
48:30: The four numbers everyone should know to stop feeling overwhelmed by money.
56:00: NEVER say this about yourself because it will create your reality.
59:00: We have a bad relationship with money in this country.
50:00: Use this tool to figure out how long it will pay off your debt.
1:06:30: The two areas most people spend too much money on.
1:10:00: Ramit lays down the bottom line about changing your mindset around money. 
1:13:00: Here’s your new money mantra to play on repeat. 
 

Disclaimer

You’ve Got Money All Wrong: A Step by Step Guide to Living a Rich Life

A few years ago, I found this study from Harvard, and it changed my life.

It's research about performance and feeling nervous, with a simple reframing method that you can use to never let fear stop you again.

I’ve been using this technique with my five second rule for years, and the first way I applied it was to get control of my nerves and fear of public speaking.

I’m going to teach you this new method in a super cool way... by taking you on the road, on stage, and behind the scenes with me as I deliver a keynote address to 3,000 people at the convention center in Dallas.

I’ve been wanting to bring you on the road with me for awhile, and this topic allowed me to record this episode live in multiple locations while all kinds of things were unfolding.

There’s even an impromptu guest appearance from Michelle Poler, whose entire speaking career is about teaching people how to face their fears.

This Harvard-backed technique is so cool because it leverages your body chemistry, physiology, and neural pathways to your advantage.

The #1 fear most people have is public speaking, but this technique will help you with absolutely everything, whether it’s speaking up at work, giving an incredible presentation, not choking when you deliver the toast at your best friend’s wedding, performing better on tests, or even running better.

Stop letting fear hold you back. Use science not only to reframe your fears into excitement but to conquer them once and for all.

And one more thing. My free, brand new, research-backed training called "Take Control with Mel Robbins" is live and waiting for you. Get 3 incredible video trainings plus a 21-page workbook, and all you have to do is sign up here.

Already a quarter of a million students are taking the course for free.

I’m just waiting for you!

Xo Mel 

 
In this episode, you’ll learn:

5:00: I’m always asked how I got into public speaking. Here’s the story.
10:15: The question YOU need to ask when someone asks how much you charge.
12:15: One of THE best tools to calm your nerves is not meditation (for me), but this.
13:30: This is my favorite quote from Charlie Bird Parker.
15:15: The wardrobe failure that may have rivaled Janet Jackson’s.
16:30: Failure sucks, but the Pratfall Effect says failure can work for you. 
19:00: I was so excited to meet this speaker and bestselling author from Venezuela.
21:45: Best journal starter question ever: Are you alive but not living?
24:30: Feeling like you never have time? You’re not going to believe this advice.
28:15: Turns out modeling nude is actually a really profound experience. 
29:00: Fear might indicate danger OR it might indicate growth. Pay attention.
30:00: How can you tell the difference between true intuition and limiting fear?
32:30: How do you get over your fear of public speaking?
34:00: Feeling imposter syndrome? You’re not alone. Here’s what you need.
40:15: Come on stage with me at the Dallas Convention Center.
40:40: I’m going to face my biggest fear next year for Oakley’s 18th birthday.
42:00: When you do something that scares the pants off you, remember this.
44:30: Tool #3 is based on research from Harvard - here’s what you tell yourself.
50:00: You don’t feel butterflies when you’re nervous because you’re going to screw up.
 
Disclaimer

Incredible Research From Harvard: 4 Simple Tools to Conquer Your Fear

In this episode, you’re learning a simple but powerful way to take control of your mindset. 

You need to get serious about your mindset. The way you think and talk to yourself has serious consequences.

Your thoughts become your beliefs.

Your beliefs turn into actions.

Your actions become habits.

And your habits determine who you are and what you achieve in life, or not.

That’s why you need a Mindset Reset.

Imagine if your thoughts were positive, empowering, clear, and encouraging. Imagine if your beliefs inspired the best in you.

If you’re tired of listening to a voice that beats you down, fills you with doubt, and argues against your goals and dreams, it’s time to change your thinking.

Today, you’ll learn how to do it for yourself and start programming a more positive, empowering, and confident mindset.

So pull up a seat as I coach two people through the process.

I’m so confident you’re going to be fired up after listening to this episode that I have a free gift to help you take your current mindset to the next level.

I have a brand new, free, 3-part training called "Take Control with Mel Robbins."

It will provide you with the coaching, structure, and support you need to hit reset, take control, and level up your life.

It features 3 brand-new training videos, two hours of research-backed curriculum taught by me, and a 21-page workbook. Plus you’ll be with hundreds of thousands of other students taking the course for free around the world.

All at zero cost to you. Why? Because you deserve it, and it’s my way of thanking you for being here with me.

You’ve got nothing to lose and everything to gain. Why not take advantage of this opportunity? I’ll see you in the course!

Xo Mel 

In this episode, you will learn:
 
5:00: What does your default critical soundtrack sound like in your mind?
7:30: Here’s the mantra I want you to start your day with. 
9:45: This is one of my easiest and favorite tools for dealing with a critical voice.
16:00: This is the #1 hit playlist I want you to put on repeat. 
17:30: Drop this word if you want to improve your relationship with others.
22:30: Work on the most important relationship of all first.
24:15: What if your critics are the voices of your boss, partner, and friends?
26:25: This trauma response is very common when you live in a state of anxiety.
30:15: Here’s why telling yourself that you love yourself doesn’t work for you.
32:00: Yes, your boss may be a douche, but you don’t have to let that ruin you.
35:00: Don’t leave today without taking away this message.
 
Disclaimer

Take Control of Your Mindset: Master Your Mental Habits for a Happier Life

This episode blew my freakin’ mind.

After you meet our expert today and learn her revolutionary approach to simplifying your life, you will never approach the topic of picking up, cleaning up, or organizing the same way again.

Whether it’s your desk or closet that is overwhelming you, or like me, you are guilty of constantly starting projects and putting things in piles, only to run out of time or get flustered, creating bigger projects to deal with in the future, today’s episode will change your entire life.

I had no idea how simple it could be to feel organized and in control.

I learned from our expert today that I was attacking organization completely wrong, and that was the problem.

Her 5 steps are so life-changing that from the moment I finished talking to her, I started putting them into practice, and the results are incredible.

Get ready to laugh and learn as I confess the details of what a disaster I am (my husband even rats me out).

Luckily, the incredible Dana K. White, founder of the hit blog, A Slob Comes Clean, and author of How to Manage Your Home Without Losing Your Mind, is here to help us all.

And that's not all.

Don’t forget to sign up for "Take Control with Mel Robbins."

It’s free. It’s my gift to you for supporting this podcast.

It features 3 brand-new training videos, two hours of research-backed curriculum taught by me, and a detailed 21-page workbook.

This training will provide you with the coaching, structure, and support you need to hit reset, take control, and level up your life.

And if you combine this training with Dana’s advice about decluttering, you, my friend, won’t even recognize yourself in a week.

All at zero cost to you. Why? Because you deserve it, and it’s my way of thanking you for being here with me.

You’ve got nothing to lose and everything to gain. So why not take advantage of this opportunity?

Sign up for free at melrobbins.com/takecontrol now.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

 

2:00: What Chris thinks about living with a slob. 😂
4:40: Wait. Organizing and decluttering are NOT the same thing?
6:20: Focus this way on organizing, and it will change your life.
7:30: Why doesn’t it work to buy all those organizing containers?
9:45: How do you know what your “clutter threshold” is?
12:15: We’ve gotten the purpose of containers all wrong!
17:40: Use “the visibility rule” before you do anything.
20:00: This is why you begin with a BLACK trash bag.
23:30: This part is still pretty easy. I can do this and you can, too.
25:00: Here’s why you don’t want a fancy “donate” box.
26:30: The decluttering question you’ve never heard before.
30:45: Here’s what REALLY happens with those organized piles.
31:50: No piles. Here’s what you do instead.
34:15: This is why we always put off organizing in the first place.
37:35: The second decluttering question you’ve never heard before.
39:00: Stop making organizing seem so big!
43:30: Spoiler alert: avoiding clutter doesn’t make it go away.
48:30: So how DO you live with a partner who’s a slob?
 
Disclaimer

5 Easy Steps to Make Your Home and Your Mind Clutter-Free

Today’s episode is a continuation of our exclusive two-part series with world-renowned medical expert Dr. Russell Kennedy.

If you thought Part 1 of this series was life-changing, buckle up! Part 2 of this Toolkit brings you even more strategies and tools as we take questions from three more listeners of the podcast.

Is anxiety impacting your ability to sleep?

Tired of the negative loop of thoughts in your mind?

Is anxiety affecting your kids?

Is it genetic?

Are there surprising signs of adult anxiety?

Did your parents struggle with it, and you never knew?

How do you break generational cycles?

Dr. Kennedy answers these questions and so many more. You’ll also learn what most therapists get "wrong" about anxiety.

You'll find Dr. Kennedy’s approach both revolutionary and effective. As a medical doctor and neuroscientist, he will coach you on the critical difference between "coping” with anxiety and his protocol for "healing" it once and for all.

And for anyone in your life who may be struggling, please share this exclusive series generously; it could provide the life-changing answers and guidance they need to finally heal.

If you are looking for more free resources and support, I’ve got you! I have a brand new, free 3-part training called "Take Control with Mel Robbins."

This training will provide you with the coaching, structure, and support you need to hit reset, take control, and level up your life.

It features 3 brand-new training videos, two hours of research-backed curriculum taught by me, and a detailed 21-page workbook. Plus, you’ll be taking the course with over half a million other students around the world.

All at zero cost to you. Why? Because you deserve it, and it’s my way of thanking you for being here with me.

You’ve got nothing to lose and everything to gain. So why not take advantage of this opportunity?

Sign up for free at melrobbins.com/takecontrol now.

Xo Mel 



P.S. And if you haven’t yet listened to The Toolkit for Healing Anxiety, Part 1 then do that as soon as you listen to this one, because you can’t afford to miss out.



P.S.S. This Toolkit for Healing Anxiety is not meant as a replacement for therapy, but if you’ve been seeing a therapist for a while, forward this series to them for guidance too. It would be great information to include in your sessions.



In this episode, you’ll learn:

3:45 What do you do when your anxiety creeps in at night?
6:15: Here’s where most therapeutic approaches get it wrong.
7:15: Use this strategy when you wake up in the night with anxiety.
10:00: Living with social anxiety? Dr. Kennedy explains why.
12:00: This is why you have a hard time slowing down. And me too!
14:30: I couldn’t believe what happened when I started facing my anxiety.
15:45: Cold plunges teach your body to be uncomfortable and still be okay.
17:15: This approach doesn’t eliminate the alarm, and yet you still heal.
20:00: Dr. Kennedy’s #1 tool to move you into rest-and-digest pretty quickly.
21:15: Not sure what your nervous system has to do with anxiety? Listen here.
23:45: Use these two tools to move yourself out of the freeze response. 
30:00: So how do you start breaking the cycle of anxiety in a family?
34:30: For those of us who grew up in the “I’ll give you something to cry about.”
35:00: What are signs that your parents were actually struggling with anxiety?
43:30: Here’s what your life can look like once you heal your alarm.
45:15: Look at your alarm this way, and your mindset towards it changes, too.
49:45: Here’s the neuroscience behind why essential oils help calm your body.
52:00: Dr. Kennedy shares his tips for playing “the right way.”
56:15: Have this where you can see it to remember your partner’s vulnerability. 



And if you missed when Dr. Kennedy joined us the first time, click here!



Disclaimer

The Toolkit for Healing Anxiety, Part 2

Today’s episode is my gift to you and anyone in your life who struggles with anxiety.

I created this exclusive series, "The Toolkit for Healing Anxiety," because of the number of questions I am receiving from listeners asking for more resources on this topic. 

Part 1 is packed with tactical takeaways and features Dr. Russell Kennedy, one of the world's most respected medical experts on anxiety. 

Dr. Kennedy is a medical doctor and neuroscientist who has a revolutionary and effective approach to helping his patients understand and heal anxiety.

(He's also been our most popular expert on the podcast to date.)

Dr. Kennedy teaches you the truth about where anxiety comes from and the mistake that most therapists make when treating it. 

You’ll also have a front-row seat as he coaches listeners on the critical difference between "coping with anxiety" and his protocol for "healing it" once and for all.

I can’t wait for you to listen and apply the advice in this life-changing series.

And for anyone in your life who may be struggling, please share this exclusive series generously; it could provide the answers and guidance they need.

If you have follow-up questions, send them to me in the DMs or through the podcast topic link on melrobbins.com/podcast. We read them and use them to program future episodes (this toolkit is an example of that).

This episode is not meant as a replacement for therapy, but if you’ve been seeing a therapist for a while and aren’t seeing yourself improve, you may want to forward this series to them for guidance too.

Xo Mel 

Didn’t get to listen to Dr. Kennedy’s first interview? Check that out here.

In this episode, you’ll learn:
 
·         5:00: I bet you haven’t heard this definition of anxiety before. . 
·         6:15: So where exactly does anxiety come from?
·         7:30: This is a revolutionary way of thinking about how to heal anxiety.
·         8:45: If you’re waking up this way, that’s a red flag. 
·         9:45: A trauma response isn’t directed outward- it’s here instead.
·         12:00: Have you tried everything to deal with your anxiety? 
·         14:45: Forget what you’ve tried so far, THIS is what will actually heal you.
·         19:00: This sign of anxiety may surprise you. 
·         22:00: Anxiety happens because of this and addictions “fix” it
·         24:00: I think there are these three layers to healing your anxiety.
·         27:15: What the hell does “inner child” mean and why does it matter?
·         30:00: There’s a difference between drama and trauma. 
·         34:00: Dr. Kennedy tried everything, but only this healed his anxiety.
·         37:00: Okay, what’s one specific and tangible tool we can use?
·         40:30: Do this together with me now.
·         44:00: Here’s why play is so important for healing trauma.
·         47:00: Healing will take time. Here’s why and what you need.
 
Disclaimer

The Toolkit for Healing Anxiety, Part 1

Today, you and I are calling BS on partners, friends, siblings, colleagues, and roommates who ride on your coattails, mooch off your generosity, and love the fact that you do everything. (While they do next to nothing.…)
 
It’s time to take your power back with 5 actionable takeaways to get people in your life to step up and do their part.
 
I’m not messing around. The first person you’ll meet in this episode is tired of being the only one holding her family together.  
 
And during the second coaching session I get even more intense with a woman whose boyfriend hasn’t had a job in three years.
 
Hear me loud and clear: by enabling other people, you are part of the problem. 
 
There are 5 things you need to know that will change this dysfunction now.
 
Clear your schedule for the next hour because you and I have an appointment where you, my friend, will learn how to lay down the law and start putting yourself first.
 
Xo Mel 
 
Can’t ask for what you need? Listen to “How to Speak Up for Yourself.”
 
In this episode, you will learn:


3:00: Do you have people in your life who rely on you a little too much?
4:30: Maybe you’re being used or maybe it’s this instead.
7:00: Is it time for you to be the parent now?
10:00: This is how to get your entire family on the same page.
14:00: Your siblings will understand your expectations if you do this.
17:15: Do this to make people feel that they’re doing the right thing.
21:30: Have a partner that isn’t pulling their weight? You need to hear this.
35:00: This is how you start a conversation when it’s time to set boundaries.
38:30: In a toxic partnered relationship? This is the truth bomb you need.
40:15: Has it become more important to be loved than to love yourself?
44:45: Let me coach you through this exercise to help you change your future.
48:00: Another truth bomb you need to hear today, no matter what you’re doing.
51:45: Listen to Brooke set a courageous boundary for the first time.
54:00: Keep little ears away, because this is what tough f’n love sounds like.
56:30: Stop letting your patterns make choices for you and step up.
1:00:45: Use this word instead of “ultimatum” when it’s time for that.
 
Disclaimer

5 Ways to Take Your Power Back When People Disrespect You

In this episode, you and I are talking about how to protect your peace.
 
You already spend a lot of time trying to be positive - so today I want to remind you that it is just as important to protect your energy  from people and situations who suck it dry. 
 
You know the ones. 
 
The friend who is so n-e-g-a-t-i-v-e, about everything! 
The rude person at the coffee shop. 
The colleague who’s always stirring the pot.
The toxic dynamic with certain family members.
 
Negative people are like dogs who have just jumped into a muddy pond. They come running up to you smelling all nasty and as soon as they get next to you - boom - they shake all that crap all over you. 
 
It’s time to protect yourself.
 
Today’s podcast episode will teach you six super easy science-backed strategies to help you create an impenetrable force field against bad energy (and muddy dogs).
 
You can’t allow that crap to get on you - because your positive life force deserves your protection!
 
And today I’m teaching you how.  Force fields up! Positive energy out!
 
Because that, my friend, is something to feel great about!
 
Xo Mel 
 
In this episode, you’ll learn:

2:00: Jumping right in with Veronica’s question about emails that ruin her day.
3:50: You probably have your own stories of entitlement like this one.
7:30: This technique I use when somebody’s mood is getting all over me.
9:15: The “snow globe” works best when you’re getting attitude.
12:30: I know this about people when they explode into a tantrum.
14:30: Science explains why our bodies stress when we’re around bad moods.
17:20: Work in a toxic environment? You have these two choices.
22:40: Dealing with a curmudgeon? I got you. Use the law of reciprocity.
26:00: Here’s how I melted the ice when I became a legal analyst with CNN.
29:30: Gossip is bad for your brain and body. Here’s why.
31:30: Here’s the #1 strategy to stop your gossip today.
33:30: Once you see triangulation, you’ll look at your relationships differently.
36:00: This one simple strategy can brighten someone’s day right now.
 
Have you been betrayed? Listen to “What to do when you’ve been cheated on.”
Need a confidence boost? Here’s your “Confidence Toolkit.”
 
Disclaimer

How to Handle Negative People: 6 Strategies to Protect Your Peace

In today’s episode, I’m finally answering the #1 personal question that I get asked:
 
What’s the story behind my tattoo on my right wrist?
 
Pull up a seat to laugh along with us as Chris and I share our tattoo adventure - complete with anxiety, jealousy, intention, love, a huge mistake on my part, and the most incredible moments of synchronicity.
 
But it’s not just a story; there’s a much more profound topic we are discussing today. 
 
Because tattoos aren’t really about tattoos. 
 
They are an example of a powerful, positive force that habit researchers call an “environmental trigger.” 
 
They’re also an example of another tool that you can use to create a more powerful and resilient mindset.
 
Because a lot of tattoos are also “meaningful mantras.” 
 
Today, you will learn how to create and use positive triggers and meaningful mantras to improve your life and to remind you of either a deeper purpose or the values you want to live by.
 
This goes way beyond etching ink onto your body. 
 
By the end of this episode, you’ll not only be inspired to create your own meaningful mantra, you will have several specific examples of how you can create a positive environmental trigger using things you have around your house. 
 
One thing’s for sure, this episode will leave a lasting impression. 😄
 
Xo Mel  
 

In this episode, you’ll learn:
 
6:00: I’m answering this personal question so many of you have been asking.
8:30: Chris shares his powerful story for the tattoo he etched on his forearm.
12:00: The inspiration for my own tattoo came from this.
15:00: You won’t believe what happened on our 15th wedding anniversary.
18:00: Here’s how I beat myself up while Chris was getting his tattoo.
19:00: You might know this already, but a tattoo isn’t just a tattoo. 
21:00: I just love the synchronicity behind this entire tattoo event.
24:30: Chris’s tattoo has become a lifeline for him, especially now.
30:30: Rule #1: a mantra will only work for you if you have this first.
32:15: Need an idea for your own mantra? I’ve got a bunch of them for you.
34:30: Here’s how to figure out your own powerful mantra.
36:30: This is what scientists think about why tattoos are so powerful.
38:15: Here’s what Chris did that gets him emotional every time he sees it.
41:00: Are you a busy mom? Then this mantra might work for you.
42:40: Maybe you need to shift your thinking about a mantra this way.
 
Learn more about “How & Why Synchronicity Can Improve Your Life.”
Want more about finding your purpose? “Stop Searching and Do This Instead.”
 
Disclaimer

Every Tattoo Has a Story: Here’s Mine

In this episode, you’re learning how to speak up for yourself and make sure that you are heard.

Whether you want to be more influential and visible at work or there’s a hard conversation that you’ve been avoiding with a family member, this episode will empower you to have a breakthrough.

Most of us have never been taught the skills we need to have challenging conversations or to better advocate for our needs.

The good news is that these are skills, and you are going to learn them in a very entertaining and relatable format today.

You’re invited to listen in on multiple coaching sessions with listeners just like you and me who are struggling to find the words or the courage to say what needs to be said.

So today I’m unpacking my formula, step by step, for handling challenging conversations.

This is an excellent episode to send to people in your life who you really wish saw their own value and worth and could communicate it better.

I can’t wait to hear how these very clear steps have helped you have those conversations you’ve been putting off and to show up differently at work and school.

Xo Mel 

Want me to answer your question on the podcast? Submit it here.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

3:00: Listen to Claudia’s question about how to set boundaries in friendships.
5:30: Here are 3 reasons why we avoid difficult conversations in the first place.
14:40: Do you have a friend who criticizes you? Listen to this.
17:30: Make sure you are ready with THIS before you start your conversation.
19:45: This is a prime example of a time when I was being a crappy friend.
23:30: Here’s what you should assume before you have a conversation.
25:30: Never do this or you’ll put the other person on the defensive.
26:45: If you can, PLEASE have your conversation this way.
30:40: Here’s my favorite visual when it’s my turn to listen.
33:40: Do you have to communicate with an ex? Listen to Erica.
35:50: You’ve got to learn how to “gray rock” when dealing with difficult people.
36:40: See the petty people in this ridiculous way and it will help!
39:30: Like it or not, you have to have this conversation for your kids’ sake.
40:30: Here is what anger and pettiness actually is.
41:15: One of two things will happen when you handle conversations like this.
43:30: How do you handle combative people in your life? Listen to Candace.
46:00: Here’s what a person with anxious attachment needs to hear from you.
49:00: Need to have a conversation with someone who’s triggered easily?

Is it time to let go of your relationship? If so, then listen to “How to Let Go.”

Learn about “The 4 Attachment Styles for Healthy Relationships.”

Disclaimer

How to Speak Up for Yourself: Simple Strategies for Being Heard

I made you an appointment with one of the world’s leading doctors in functional medicine.

Dr. Mark Hyman has written an incredible 14 (!!!) New York Times best sellers. He is the founder and director of The UltraWellness Center, and Head of Strategy and Innovation at the Cleveland Clinic Center for Functional Medicine.
His latest book, Young Forever, teaches you science-backed, actionable steps to slow down the aging process and even reverse disease.

An appointment like this would cost $$$ in person, but today, it’s free for you.

Seriously, you will be floored by what you hear.

No matter how old you are, you have more control over your health than you may think, and it’s never too early or too late to start making simple yet profound changes.

Having trouble sleeping? We've got you.

Brain fog and headaches messing up your day? Check.

Low energy? We hear you.

Anxiety and ADHD running your life? We’re covering that too.

In this episode, we are breaking everything down point by point so that you get the specific, actionable steps you need to start changing your life in real time.

Grab a notebook because the doctor is in and he will see you now.

Get ready to take charge of your health like never before.

Xo Mel

Check out research and other resources at melrobbins.com/podcast.

 
In this episode, you’ll learn:
 
9:30: Food is not just food; here’s what it becomes once you eat it.
12:30: So what’s the connection between gut health and overall health?
14:45: What exactly is inflammation and what’s causing it?
16:30: Okay, so then what does a healthy gut look like?
19:30: Put these foods on your plate for 10 days and see what happens.
23:30: The big fat lie we’re being fed every day.
25:30: Can changing my gut heal my anxiety?
27:15: This simple tool will improve digestion and calm your nerves.
28:30: Phenomenal story of ADHD that was healed in two months.
31:30: The difference between two main types of allergies.
34:00: Holy sh*t! What Dr. Hyman said that reminded me of Oakley.
37:45: The 5 major things in your life that cause inflammation.
40:00: Simple tips to help you start sleeping better.
42:40: If we could cure this, we’d extend our lives by more than 7 years.
44:45: These are the supplements you and I should be taking.
48:15: Here’s what causes your body to dump too much magnesium.
50:50: Trouble with your hormones? You need to hear this.
55:00: Do this if you want a clear picture of your health.
59:45: What probiotics help reset your gut?
 
Want me to answer your question on the podcast? Submit it here.
Start your day off with focus using “A Toolkit for the Perfect Morning Routine.”
Here are more “Simple Ways to Improve Your Brain Health.”
 
Disclaimer

Reset Your Health in 10 Days: Advice From a Renowned MD

In this episode, you and I are tackling overwhelm together as I coach five listeners just like you who are tired of feeling so stressed.
 
I promise this will be helpful, fun, and full of powerful tools you can put to use immediately.
 
You need that because you’re drowning in your to-do lists, taking care of everyone else but yourself, and you’re saying yes to every commitment that enters your inbox. 
 
That’s why simple solutions are the answer.
 
And I need these solutions too. I feel like my to-do list is overflowing and the demands are piling up.
 
But that’s okay, because with The Mel Robbins Podcast, you get to show up exactly as you are.
 
And today, we will start breaking down the two types of overwhelm so you can understand exactly what it is you’re dealing with. 
 
But we don’t stop there.
 
You’re also getting three simple but profound strategies to help you eliminate the overwhelm from your life.
 
So that you start feeling energized again. 
 
And I so want that for you. 
 
Xo Mel 
Check out research and other resources at melrobbins.com/podcast.

In this episode, you’ll learn:


3:30: If you’re a parent or caregiver, you’ll recognize yourself in Laura’s question.
8:00: Knowing the two types of overwhelm has profoundly impacted my life.
9:00: What my talk show mentor taught me that I’ll never forget.
11:45: When it comes to dealing with legitimate overwhelm, start here.
14:45: Can you have a morning routine when your life is overwhelmed?
17:00: When life seems insanely busy, you have to stop telling yourself this lie.
18:00: Here’s my #1 strategy for dealing with overwhelm.
23:30: Are you someone who says yes to everything? Then this is for you.
28:40: The Rule of Three saves me every time.
32:35: This truth about procrastination will make you see it in a whole new way.
38:15: Procrastinating on paying your bills? You need to listen to Michelle.
 
Want me to answer your question on the podcast? Submit it here.
Don’t know how to say no? Listen to “Start Putting Yourself First.”
And I know you will like “The Only Way to Stop Procrastinating.”
 
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Practical, Proven Tools I Use When I Feel Overwhelmed

In this episode, we are digging into betrayal and learning how to get your power back after someone shatters your trust.
 
It’s happened to me and I know it’s happened to you, too.
 
Maybe someone cheated on you. Maybe someone stole from you in business. Perhaps it was a friend who stabbed you in the back.  
 
It’s painful.  
 
You might not be sure how to confront that person, or if it’s even worth it. 
 
Or if you did confront them, they may have denied and deflected, making you feel like something was wrong with you.
 
Well today I’m using my own experiences with betrayal to coach Sonia and Jenn - and you - through this. 
 
You always have options, and whether you believe it or not, you can get your power back.
 
Today’s episode will help you heal, change your perspective, and equip you with the tools you need to land on your feet and be smarter, more open and able to create healthier relationships, partnerships, and friendships in the future.
 
You deserve that.
 
Buckle up, because your friend Mel is hitting you between the eyes with some hard earned wisdom and tough love today. 
 
 Xo Mel 
Check out research and other resources at melrobbins.com/podcast.

In this episode, you’ll learn:
 
3:30: I was betrayed by someone in my business and this is what I learned.
4:12: Sonia asks her question about a painful betrayal.
5:15: Should you confront this person? Ask yourself this first.
11:40: You don’t need to have this in order to feel closure with someone.
14:20: Here’s how to have a conversation with someone who betrayed you.
16:00: Jenn reveals how her painful betrayal has changed her.
17:30: This is the hardest part of betrayal to grasp. Please play on repeat.
19:20: Here is what you’re actually grieving after you’ve been betrayed.
26:45: You need to change your story of betrayal. Here’s how.
28:30: Trying to work through betrayal with someone you love? Listen to this.
34:40: Here is what the experts say about affairs. 
39:45: The advice from Jenn that you need to hear if you’ve just been betrayed.
 
Want me to answer your question on the podcast? Submit it here.
Here is Betrayal 101: “3 Lessons From One of the Hardest Years of My Life.”
When it’s time to do this, listen to “How to Let Go.”
 
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What to Do When You’ve Been Cheated On

In this episode, you and I are getting intentional about your happiness.

Happiness is misunderstood.

Fortunately, there’s a ton of research that explains why it can be so elusive and, even better, HOW you can create a happier life, starting today.

Our conversation about happiness begins with breaking down the two types of happiness and why it’s important for you to include both in your life.

You’ll also learn four practical takeaways that research says are key for cultivating more happiness in your daily life.

I love this episode, and I can’t wait for you to experience it! I am bringing the science and the strategies, and I have a phenomenal metaphor to share with you that will forever change the way you view happiness.

You’re not only going to learn what to do; you’re going to experience several listeners just like you who are seeking more happiness and fulfillment in their lives.

This is a highly relatable, entertaining, and transformative episode, so don’t miss out.

You’ll be happy you joined us.

Xo Mel 

Check out research and other resources at melrobbins.com/podcast.

And if you want to start owning your mornings, join my free Wake Up Challenge.
 
In this episode, you’ll learn:
 
3:00: Can’t remember the last time you were truly happy? You’re not alone.
5:00: Does this happen to you when you chase happiness?
8:00: What do we mean by happiness, anyway?
8:30: You knew this was coming- my favorite metaphor for happiness!
10:15: Science puts happiness into these two buckets.
14:00: The problem when you’re on a big healing journey and what to do about it.
23:00: Can you feel happy even during the mundane, ordinary days?
24:15: Believe it or not, here’s where you find true happiness.
26:30: This is the single best decision you can make to cultivate happiness.
30:00: This is how your brain reads loneliness because you’re meant to connect.
35:00: Building warm relationships starts here.
37:30: Here’s how I reorganized my own life to stop feeling lonely.
39:50: My mom is a pro at this and research shows it will boost your energy.
44:30: What do you need to know about feeling inner peace?
46:30: Here’s why older people tend to be happier.
48:30: Three surprising ways to actually invite more peace in your life.
 
Want me to answer your question on the podcast? Submit it here.
 
This episode pairs well with “You’ll Never Be Truly Happy Until You Start Doing This”
 
Learn how to train your mind with “The Mindset Reset Toolkit.”.
 
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Unlock a Happier Life: 3 Research-Backed Secrets

Today’s episode is a trip.
 
I can’t wait to introduce you to my favorite metaphor - a road trip - to inspire you to have more fun and enjoy the ride on this thing called life.
 
After all, life is a journey. And no one’s path is exactly the same. 
 
So today, I’m asking you to think about this road trip called life. 
 
And I’m going to be asking you to consider some thought-provoking questions:
 
Are you the driver or the passenger of your life?
 
Are you even on the right road? 
 
Do you need to pick a new direction? 
 
Are you heading where you want to go, but speeding so fast you can’t enjoy the ride?
 
Is it time to update the road trip playlist (in your head)?
 
And most importantly, what lies on the road ahead? 
 
Whether you’ve just graduated, you’re an empty nester, or you’re somewhere in between, this episode is the perfect gift to send to absolutely everyone in your life.
 
Change is scary, but it doesn’t have to be. I’m here to help you navigate the road ahead. 
 
This episode will empower you to take the wheel in your life.
 
Because you, my friend, have choices. 
 
And there’s a million ways to get to where you want to go.
 
The best days of your life are ahead. I believe that, and after you embrace the opportunity of this road trip called life, you’ll believe it too! 
 
Xo Mel 
Check out research and other resources at melrobbins.com/podcast.

And if you want to start owning your mornings, join my free Wake Up Challenge.
 
In this episode, you’ll learn:

1:00: You’re often asking me about my career history, well here it is!
3:00: What does reinvention mean anyway?
6:00: The #1 piece of advice to remember before you reinvent your life.
8:45: 90% of the questions coming into my inbox are about this.
9:40: This is my favorite metaphor when it comes to demystifying life’s journey.
12:45: When you are stuck or you’re going through hell, do this first.
14:15: What happens when life doesn't go the way you expected it to?
17:30: When sh*t happens in your life, please don’t do this.
18:30: Embrace these two truths about life, you’ll tap into your power.
20:30: Do this activity to start loving the most important person in your life.
22:00: What do you do when your life feels “blah” and uninspiring? 
26:45: Don’t miss these science-backed steps to create more excitement!
31:45: I texted this study from Laura Vanderkam to all my parent friends.
35:30: Your relationship to time is always going to be about this.
36:15: This study with university students doesn’t make sense logically.
40:00: Denise was thinking about this for 20 YEARS; listen to what happened.
 
Want me to answer your question on the podcast? Submit it here.
 
Want more help with your dreams? Listen to “Your Dreams Are Not a Joke” and “Goal-Setting Toolkit.”
 
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Are You the Driver in Your Life or Just the Passenger?

In this episode, you are getting a brand new definition of confidence.

This definition is based on research studies on how confidence is built.

Confidence is not what you think it is.

It is not a personality trait you’re born with, and it’s not reserved only for extroverts.

Confidence is a skill that anyone can master.

And today is the perfect day for you to start.

You and I are breaking down the science together, and you’re invited to join in as I coach several listeners who are struggling with self-doubt.

By the time this episode is done, you will not only have a brand new definition of confidence, but you will also know how to put that definition to use to start building unstoppable confidence in your own life.

Confidence is your birthright. You can’t lose it; you just lost your connection to it.

Let’s get that back.

If you are willing to get up every day and put one foot in front of the other, you, my friend, will not only be practicing and building confidence, but over time you’ll start feeling more confident too.

Xo Mel 

Check out research and other resources at melrobbins.com/podcast.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

2:00: The question Heather asked about confidence that so many of you have.
3:50: Honestly, here’s what happens when you have more confidence.
6:00: This is a “doing podcast," so here’s your first assignment.
8:30: This is what you and I were getting wrong about confidence. Until now.
8:45: Your new definition of confidence that embodies the research.
13:45: Here is one of the simplest and yet profound reasons for my success.
14:40: Did you happen to catch my 21-minute panic attack on TEDx?
16:50: Neuroscience says it gets easier to feel confident when you do this.
21:40: Feeling like an imposter? Great! Here’s why.
23:30: Alex’s question led us to talk about Myth #1 about confidence.
24:20: Here’s a surprising fact about confidence.
25:55: Myth #2 about confidence needs to be laid to rest.
27:00: Telling yourself that you lost your confidence? Then listen to Myth #3.
28:10: I’ve loved this TED Talk for years. 
29:00: Use tool #1 to interrupt your self-doubt and do what you’re afraid of..
31:25: Confidence does not come before action; THIS does.
31:00: There are two types of people when it comes to action. Which are you?
33:30: Rule #2 is fun; research says it’s the fastest way to create new habits.
35:45: Rule #3 is absolutely essential if you want to build confidence.
38:00: Rule #4 is what I tell myself every time I’m about to do something scary.
40:50: I don’t want to come to the end of my life feeling this.
42:45: If you’re willing to feel this way, you’re guaranteed to keep growing.
44:15: Do you like this person you’re spending your life with?
46:00: Be careful who you give your number one commodity away to.
49:30: Ultimately, here’s why you’re not feeling confident. Now change that.
51:00: This is the hard truth about life that you need to hear.
 
Want me to answer your question on the podcast? Submit it here.
 
Sign up for my free 5-day Wake Up Challenge to wake up your confidence.
 
Disclaimer

Toolkit for Building Unstoppable Confidence (According to Research)

This is an episode about how to face the things that you’re scared to admit, or as in the case of my guest today, have never publicly spoken about.

Today, you and I are going on a healing journey so that you can put the past where it belongs: in the rearview mirror.

You deserve healing.

It’s the only pathway for experiencing true peace, happiness, and the greatness you’re capable of.

So, I’m introducing you to a friend of mine who had some serious sh*t to face and has spent the last several years addressing the things that used to drag him down.

Do not miss this deeply personal conversation.

It is profound. It is relevant to your life and packed with so much wisdom. And we jump right in. 

There are so many mic-drop moments, it would be hard for me to pick just one, because my guest today was so unguarded and generous.

You may know him, but you’ve never heard him like this before.

I’m talking about Lewis Howes, host of the award-winning podcast, The School of Greatness, which just celebrated its 10-year anniversary and has over 500 million downloads.

His brand new book, The Greatness Mindset, teaches you how to discover your own unique gifts and talents, but more importantly, how to do the work to heal.

And look, this conversation is “unguarded” and covers sensitive topics (particularly perhaps for the men in your life). So if this isn’t for you right now – please skip this episode.

I cannot wait to hear your favorite and most meaningful parts of this unforgettable conversation with Lewis.

Xo Mel

In this episode, you’ll learn:

3:00: After all the work he’s done, how does Lewis define greatness?
4:50: If you’re drowning emotionally, here’s what to do.
6:00: One of the most profound ways to start accepting yourself.
8:00: If you were bullied or didn’t do well in school, you’ll relate to this.
13:00: Almost all of us have an identity crisis at some point in our lives.
14:43: Here’s what happens when success never feels fulfilling.
15:40: What does it feel like to be “at peace”?
19:30: Listen to Lewis describe the surprising places he felt his past trauma.
21:00: Here’s how Lewis came to terms with being dyslexic.
23:40: If you haven’t healed trauma, here’s how it can come out in your day to day life.
28:20: Lewis describes the first time he shared his trauma out loud.
37:00: No matter what you do, you don’t feel like you’re enough. Here’s what to do.
37:35: Here’s what’s incredible about seeing your own value.
40:30: Lewis started a podcast when podcasts were not really a thing. This is how it began.
42:30: The wake up moment that led to The School of Greatness.
45:15: Do this when you want to change your career or start a business.
46:30: I love this way of thinking about winning.
48:30: Out of hundreds, this is the interview guest that had the most impact.
50:30: Lewis only found real love after doing this first.
53:00: What does it mean to no longer abandon yourself?
54:00: Most men struggle with this because they were never taught how.
56:30: The powerful words Lewis said at the start of his current relationship.
58:00: The moment in Lewis’ therapy that changed everything.
60:00: The surprising place where Lewis found men who felt emotionally free.
 
Visit www.melrobbins.com/podcast for additional resources.
 
Want me to answer your question on the podcast? Submit it here.

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Before You Waste Another Year of Your Life, Get Serious About Healing Your Past

In this episode, you are going to learn how to put yourself first.
 
Which means you and I are having a conversation about people-pleasing.
 
You know you do it. I do it, too. 
 
In fact, unless you're a narcissistic jerk (and you’re not if you’re listening to these podcast episodes), we are all people-pleasers to some extent.
 
Being a people-pleaser is a coping mechanism and it is destroying your energy, your time, your dreams, and your sanity.
 
Every time you say yes to something you don’t really want to do, you’re saying no to yourself.
 
Today, we’re changing that in a surprising way.
 
First, you’ll become aware of when and why you do it.
 
Second, you’ll learn the science-backed tools you need to break the habit of always putting other people’s needs before your own.
 
Third, you and I are going to have a talk about guilt, because when you start saying no, one thing I can guarantee is that you’ll feel guilty about it.
 
I used to, too. I don’t anymore. And I’ll explain how you can handle the guilt and still put yourself first. One of the critical steps to creating a life you love is learning how to say yes to what matters to you and no to what doesn’t.
 
This is a big topic; there are a lot of surprising layers.
 
So I can’t wait for you to apply these relatable and easy strategies to your life and to hear about your breakthroughs. 
 
Xo Mel 
 
In this episode, you’ll learn:

1:50: What the heck IS people-pleasing anyway? (4 takeaways you may have not heard)
5:12: I bet you can relate to Janet who learned this message as a kid.
6:00: Let’s just get the bad news about guilt out of the way.
7:15: Because here is some good news about guilt!
9:00: What does a pool table have to do with people-pleasing?
14:50: I still cringe when I think of this phone call with my father.
18:45: Here’s how a pool table can double as a desk 😂 
22:10: What happens when your friends don’t like the “new you”?
24:45: At the heart of people-pleasing is this.
26:00: This research explains why we avoid discomfort. 
27:16: Think people-pleasing is about others? Think again.
28:00: The surprising advice for how to handle disappointment from others.
31:50: What if your lifestyle is now different from your friends?
34:30: Here’s where to find friends who get you.
35:10: Please stop looking here for validation as you change your life.
37:50: Are you sure you know when you’re being authentic?
40:00: Do this to start figuring out who you really are.
42:00: Do this next time you’re asked to do something you don’t want to do.
47:00: Here’s how my friend Amy reacted when I had to bail on her at dinner in Vegas.
48:50: This is what happens every time you start to say no.
 
Want me to answer your question on the podcast? Submit it here.
 
Visit www.melrobbins.com/podcast for additional resources.
 
Sign up for my free 5-day Wake Up Challenge.
 
Disclaimer

Start Putting Yourself First: Tools to Say No Without Guilt or Drama

In this episode, I’m on a mission to open your eyes to new possibilities.
 
What do you really want from your life?
 
And how can you reimagine your next career move to help you fulfill it?
 
If you’re feeling stuck in a job you hate, were just laid off or fired, just graduated, or you have no idea what you want to do with your life, this episode is my gift to you.
 
I wanted to do something to help you gain the clarity and courage that you need to make a big change when you’re feeling uncertain.
 
So I’ve arranged for you to meet with one of the best experts on the planet for a zero cost masterclass and coaching session on getting clear on your next career move, Amy Porterfield.
 
Her new book, Two Weeks Notice, is the playbook for how you build a successful side hustle or business with zero prior experience.
 
Amy’s taught more than 50,000 people just like you how to go from dreading their job to designing the life and work they’ve dreamed about.
 
Today Amy is coaching you, and when you’re done listening to our conversation, you’ll not only be inspired, but you’ll also have the tactical next steps to take.
 
And, if you’ve ever quietly dreamt of having your own business, my mission today is to pour gasoline on that fire.
 
After you listen, you’ll think differently about what you’re capable of, and you’ll get a taste of what COULD be.
 
I always say you are one decision away from the rest of your life.
 
If you’re ready to design a life you love waking up to, we’re about to teach you how.
 
Xo Mel 
 

In this episode, you’ll learn:

0:13: What you’ll learn today and why you don’t want to miss this episode.
4:00: Laid off or in a job you hate? Here’s what you need to know right now
8:00: Amy’s wake up call moment – and what you can learn from it.
11:30: Have you ever felt there was something else you were supposed to do? 
13:15: Jealousy is a good thing when it does this for you.
22:30: Don’t know what to do next? Start with the Sweet Spot Formula.
26:15: Adopt this mentality and you’ll start leveling up in all areas of your life.
31:30:  If you want to be your own boss, start doing this.
32:00: My #1 pro tip to get a free education. 
34:00: Ok, but what do you do if you don’t have a lot of money?
35:30: Here’s what happens to you once you take action.
38:30: Think you’re too old to be your own boss? Listen to this story.
44:50: My top two tips when it comes to feeling more confident.
47:00: Afraid of others judging you? Here’s how you handle that.
50:15: The power of your “starter idea”
 
Want me to answer your question on the podcast? Submit it here.
 
Visit www.melrobbins.com/podcast for additional resources.
 
Sign up for my free 5-day Wake Up Challenge to start beating procrastination from the second your alarm goes off.

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Hate Your Job? Burnt Out? Laid Off? Reimagine Your Future & Take the Next Right Step

In this episode, we’re attacking procrastination head on – using science.
 
Just think about how many hours, or heck YEARS, you have wasted thinking about what you needed to do instead of doing it.

That ends today. 

This episode is packed with a simple, research-backed method to understanding why you procrastinate (it’s not what you think) and what researchers claim is the best way of tackling it.

I predict this episode will be one of the most shared this year because procrastination kills more dreams than fear ever does. 
 
Take a listen to this episode, and I will give you something priceless in return: more time. 

Imagine having hours to move closer to your dreams, hours to spend with your family, hours to move your body or read that novel, or hell, hours to do whatever the hell you want because you deserve it. 

In this episode, we cover everything from micro-procrastinating to avoiding the really important stuff. And as always, I am armed with research and simple takeaways that work.
 
Specifically, you’ll learn 4 critical takeaways to apply to your life immediately, along with a science-backed 3-step technique to break free from your procrastination habit.
 
Whether you are the captain of procrastination like I used to be, or you are just tired of wasting so much time scrolling on your phone, this toolkit is my zero-cost gift to you. 
 
Nothing is more important than taking control of your time, so hit play and I’ll lead the way to ending that vicious cycle you feel stuck in.
 
Don’t procrastinate on listening to this episode. 
 
You deserve to understand why you're resisting parts of your life so that starting today, you can level up and get more out of it.
 
Xo Mel 
 
In this episode, you’ll learn:
 
3:05: Takeaway #1: Please stop labeling yourself as this.
4:00: Takeaway #2: Two kinds of procrastination; which one are you doing?
6:00: If you can’t do what you need to get done… you’re normal.
8:45: Believe it or not, this is the #1 task most of us procrastinate on.
10:15: Takeaway #3: You are not stuck being a procrastinator.
12:10: Takeaway #4: This is actually what’s behind your procrastination.
13:00: Procrastination defined in a way you’ve never heard before.
19:00: Comfortable doesn’t mean you LIKE where you are.
24:55: Do this when you catch yourself procrastinating.
25:40: What the world’s leading expert found through his research on procrastination.
29:35: The best question to ask yourself next time you catch yourself procrastinating.
33:00: The #1 science-backed hack to break your procrastination habit.
35:00: Your problem is not that you can’t; it’s that you’ve been trapped.
37:50: You have to do THIS before you start believing in yourself.
 
Want me to answer your question on the podcast? Submit it here.
 
Visit www.melrobbins.com/podcast for additional resources.
 
Sign up for my free 5-day Wake Up Challenge to start beating procrastination from the second your alarm goes off.
 
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The Only Way to Stop Procrastinating (Based on Research)

In this episode, you’re invited to sit in on a really personal and raw conversation with our 17-year-old son, Oakley.



Whether you experience anxiety yourself or you’re just worried about someone you love who does, this episode is a powerful gift from my family to you.



What Oakley shares based on his personal experience is life-changing.



You will hear Oakley describe two periods of anxiety and some pretty scary and overwhelming thoughts that rose up freshman and sophomore years of high school.



I am sharing this with you because Oakley is not alone in what he experienced.



According to the CDC’s most recent data, anxiety in teens and adults continues to rise, with nearly half surveyed reporting persistent feelings of hopelessness. 



Whether you’re an adult or a teen, depression and anxiety are two of those mental health conditions that leave you feeling isolated from everyone because it can seem like you’re the only one having these kinds of overwhelming thoughts.



Today, in real-time, Oakley shines a light on what he experienced and how he worked through it.



And don’t worry, this isn’t a downer. In typical Oakley fashion, he has me laughing as much as I was sighing.



Two really important things come out of this conversation:



#1: You get an inside view of what anxiety can look and feel like, and #2, you get to learn about the healing process Oakley engaged in with family, a therapist, his doctor, and medication to work his way through it and back to a clear, confident, and happy state of mind.



I want to be clear. Oakley has chosen to share his own personal experience. With his therapist’s help, Oak feels more connected and empowered to ride the ups and downs of life and create deeper meaning in his life. And that’s what we want for you.



So many of you write in to thank us for sharing these conversations with my adult kids because they help you open up conversations.



Well, today’s conversation is meant to serve the same purpose. You may want to listen to this with people you love. 



And please, share this.



Share it with teachers, coaches, nieces, nephews, and parents who you know could use these insights.



Too many of us try to deal with anxiety on our own. Let Oakley inspire you and the people you love to open up.



You are not weird or messed up if you have fleeting dark thoughts, but if those thoughts persist, please reach out to a therapist, family, or friends. You don’t have to go through this alone.



And if this topic is not for you right now, bookmark this episode and come back to it at another time. But it is a deeply powerful one you won’t want to miss.



Xo Mel 



In this episode, you’ll learn:



2:20: Is your loved one resistant to therapy? Here’s what to do.
4:15: My son schooled me on therapy and why I should have done it for myself sooner.
6:30: I had no idea he was feeling this way.
8:40: Oakley describes his panic attack and dark thoughts.
14:00: Here’s why Oakley didn’t share his feelings with us.
19:30: This is what everyone has to know about big, scary thoughts.
23:15: Here’s what Oakley suggests for those struggling.
28:00: Oakley’s existential crisis that led to his breakdown.
32:30: My panic attacks and anxiety felt like this.
33:30: Here’s what we did to support Oakley.
34:40: The John Mayer song that had a powerful impact on Oakley.
46:45: Here’s where Oakley is now that he’s been working with his therapist.
53:00: Two profound quotes that really resonate.



Visit www.melrobbins.com/podcast for additional resources.

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If You Struggle With Anxiety, This Episode Will Change Your Life

In this episode, we’re discussing morning routines.
This episode is very tactical and covers 5 simple but essential components of a perfect morning routine.

I’m really glad that you’re taking this topic seriously because every successful person you admire is serious about their mornings.

I sure am.

How you set up your day is typically how it ends up.

I love my morning routine so much that I call it the Million Dollar Morning, because it makes me feel like a million bucks for the rest of my day – and it creates a level of discipline in my life that helps me make millions of dollars too.

But let me be clear: I am not naturally a morning person.

And if that’s been your excuse, my mission is to change your mind.

If you already have a morning routine, listen to this episode to take it up a notch.

Xo Mel 
 
Sign up today for my free 5-day Wake Up Challenge so you can start your own Million Dollar Morning routine tomorrow. 
 
Once you finish listening,  be sure to check out the episode “The #1 Hack for Being More Productive Tomorrow” to learn why your morning routine begins the night before.
 

In this episode, you’ll learn:


2:45: What is behavioral activation and how can it help you?
4:50: How the first decision of your day is like the lead domino in a run.
7:30: Feeling bad about your morning routine? Don’t. Here’s mine.
8:20: Let’s talk about procrastination in the morning.
12:10: I can relate if the heaviness of the morning overwhelms you.
14:30: Morning routines are boring.
16:30: Rule #1 of your brand new rockstar morning routine.
17:10: Using The 5 Second Rule in your morning routine.
21:05: The biggest and best question to ask yourself about getting up.
23:00: Snooze Button Blues: the science behind why you shouldn’t snooze.
26:20: The pep talk you need: what your alarm really means.
27:00: Rule #2 will train you to start cleaning up life’s messes right off the bat.
29:45: Rule #3 is my favorite simple habit that reminds me I’m a winner.
34:00: Are you making this mistake in the bedroom?
36:10: Rule #4 requires only 10 minutes to make a difference to your health.
37:00: Do this in the morning and you’ll sleep better at night.
38:00: Rule #5 The science-backed secret to making progress every day.
 
Visit www.melrobbins.com/podcast for additional resources to help you go deeper.
 
 
Disclaimer

A Toolkit for Creating the Perfect Morning Routine

Today’s episode is a masterclass on finding your purpose, listening to your gut, and never giving up (no matter what other people say).
 
So many of you write in asking for advice about purpose that I’ve decided to introduce you to a guest whose life story is the epitome of purpose.
 
You’re about to meet a woman who went from serving up stacks of pancakes at Denny’s to creating a billion-dollar product that would help millions of women around the world feel confident in their own skin. 
 
It was such a success that L'Oréal recently bought her company for $1.2 billion dollars.
 
I’m talking about none other than Jamie Kern Lima, the founder of It Cosmetics.
 
And if you think that her purpose in life was to create a cosmetics company, you’d be wrong.
 
The topic of purpose is essential and misunderstood, so today I’ll teach you how to truly find your purpose using Jamie’s inspiring story and tactical tools every step of the way.
 
In fact, her takeaways are so good that I refer to her as the “Professor of Purpose,” because by the end of this episode, you’ll be closer to finding yours.
 
Learn how today. Class is in session with one of the most successful self-made women today.
 
Xo Mel 
 
For episodes notes and resources, go to melrobbins.com/podcast
 
In this episode, you’ll learn:


4:10: Feel like there’s something bigger you’re supposed to do? Jamie did too.
5:30: Like it or not, here’s why your current job is important to your future you. 
6:29: Your setbacks are more valuable than you think.
8:30: Jamie nails what “purpose” actually is and why most of us think of it in the wrong way.
12:00: Big takeaway: your steps are ordered exactly as they should be.
15:40: Why Jamie’s 1.2 billion dollar idea almost didn’t happen and the ‘AHA’ moment that changed everything.
18:45: That modern-day beauty movement we love? It was done FIRST by Jamie.
20:20: If you’re feeling stuck, here are the words you need to hear TODAY.
22:00 How do you go from AHA to actually getting started?
28:00: How to face your #1 critic (yourself) and start trusting your gut.
33:10: A profound reframe on the hardships you have experienced.
34:00: Jamie’s story of one of the most painful rejections she ever experienced and the life-changing lesson she learned about intuition.
47:50: The expert advice Jamie defied to instead go with her gut.
53:15: Listen to Jamie’s advice if you have been rejected over and over.
56:30: Here’s the perfect way to frame your true power.
58:20: Stop thinking about purpose in this way. Here’s the truth about finding your purpose.
1:01:15: 2 exercises to help have your own ‘AHA’ moment.
1:04:00: Why going after your dreams is YOUR responsibility.
 

Take my free 5-day challenge – The Wake Up Challenge – to walk you through getting started with these tools: www.melrobbins.com/wakeup.
 
Disclaimer

How to Find Your Purpose: Stop Searching and Do This Instead

In this episode, we are talking about the #1 thing you can do to make sure tomorrow is a productive and awesome day.

I’m sure you know the importance of a good morning routine.

But what you may not know is that a rock-solid morning routine – the kind that kickstarts you and your day for maximum focus and to feel more in control, calm, and like the rockstar that you are… 

It doesn’t start where you think. 

If you truly want to own your day, you must first own the night before.

That’s right. 

Hours before you even lay your head on your pillow, your decisions have either set you up for success or they have set you up to fail.

Your brain is primed to be the most productive during the first 2-4 hours of the day. That’s why I want you to get serious about how you set yourself up the night before.

This episode is packed with research-backed tactics, specific advice, and the four science-backed components of the best evening routine.

And this is also one of those tough-love, hit you with the common-sense, friend-to-friend conversations that you know and love from me.

Xo Mel 

Take my free 5-day challenge – The Wake Up Challenge – to walk you through getting started with these tools: www.melrobbins.com/wakeup.

In this episode, you’ll learn:


1:30: Here’s where your morning routine should REALLY begin.
2:30: Are you losing your next day by revenge procrastinating?
5:00: Here’s what my evenings used to look like. Can you relate?
10:00: Not getting out of bed with the first alarm? Here’s what you’re telling yourself every time you hit the snooze.
13:40: The way your morning starts is the lead domino for your day.
17:00: The secret to having a great morning is this.
19:30: Rule #1: The 3-2-1 Method that will help you get a great night’s sleep.
21:30: Rule #2: The Mindset Flip. This is how you make your life easier.
22:15: I do this at night so I get to the gym in the morning.
25:45: Rule #3: Feel way more empowered about your day if you do this.
28:15: No more excuses. Do this tonight.
30:00: Rule #4: This is where most of us get our mornings wrong.
33:30: Flip how you think about the alarm and you’ll shift your whole day.
36:40: I feel so strongly about this last hack because you allow the world to steal your attention and you deserve better.
39:15: I got a little worked up here, but it’s because I have regrets.


For episodes notes and resources, go to melrobbins.com/podcast

Disclaimer

This podcast is not meant to be a substitute for therapy and is for educational and entertainment purposes only. It is my passion, however, to bring you free and accessible content that can help you change your life for the better.

The #1 Hack for Being More Productive Tomorrow

In this episode, you and I are getting a masterclass on the topic of love.

And it’s not what you think. 

This is not an episode about relationships – it is an episode about YOUR relationship to love and how you can let more love into your life. 

My mission with this episode is to inspire you to stop and consider the profound subject of love, how important it is, and why you deserve to feel more love in your daily life.

If you have felt alone or feel like your relationships are on autopilot, this episode is a real gift.

I am also excited because as you listen to this episode, I get to introduce you to someone I really love. 

He and his wife are very dear friends of ours and he just finished a two-year-long research project on the topic of love. 

This friend of mine is also a former monk with a tender heart and a global fanbase. 

His sage counsel on life is sought after by celebrities, world leaders, professional athletes, and the most successful artists in the world.

I’m talking about none other than my friend, Jay Shetty. He’s the #1 New York Times bestselling author of Think Like a Monk, and his latest book is 8 Rules of Love.

Climb into your favorite chair and get ready for a wild ride. 

I threw out the talking points from Jay’s PR team and just went for it. I love this episode because Jay delivered. 

He gets personal and reveals more about his own experience and mistakes with love than ever before.

This is a must listen and a must share. Listen as a family. Listen with friends. Listen as a couple. Listen by yourself. Love is what we need. And hearing two dear friends go deep on the topic will make your heart swell.

Even an old dog like me learned a few new tricks about how I can experience more love and be more loving in my life ❤️

Xo Mel

In this episode, you’ll learn:


3:40: Hear Jay’s 3-part definition of love I’d never heard that is so spot on.
4:30: According to research, this is how many hours you need to spend to make a casual friend, a good friend, and a great friend.
6:40: Are you doing this with your partner? Jay says that’s not love.
8:00: Okay wow, here’s where I realize I’m not doing something for my husband, Chris, that I should be doing.
11:15: If your relationship is new, be careful you don’t do this.
13:40: Why do we chase relationships in order to feel worthy?
18:15: Rule #1 for finding love.
19:50: What research shows will happen if you enter a relationship simply because you’re afraid of being alone.
21:00: Hear Jay in a rare moment where he talks about his childhood trauma.
27:00: Here’s why you keep dating the same kind of person over and over.
29:00 One simple exercise you can do today to start building a healthy relationship.
31:30: Jay leads us through a powerful meditation.
38:15: There are four phases of love: hear them unpacked and explained.
40:00:  Dating someone new? Then you need to know about both the “halo effect” and the “context effect.”
43:30: Jay’s best piece of advice if you want that new relationship to last.
47:00: Here’s Jay’s Rule #4 of love and why it’s my favorite.
53:30: Is someone caring for you or controlling you? Here’s how to tell.
55:00: What you might be doing in your relationship that’s hurting it.
57:30: Here’s what I disagreed with Jay about.
59:30: What is the purpose of love in your life? Jay answers.


Want to go deeper into the topic of relationships? Listen to the last episode, “I Don’t Usually Share Advice Like This: 6 Lessons on Making Any Relationship Work.”


Disclaimer

A Toolkit for Love: How to Find It, Keep It, and Let It Go

In this episode, I’m getting brutally honest with you about relationships. 
 
Our conversation begins with a question from a listener who asked me for advice on how to make your relationship go the distance in this messy modern world.
 
I’ve always shied away from giving relationship advice, mainly because after 26 years of marriage, I know the only secret is this: it takes a lot of consistent work.
 
I also don’t consider myself an “expert” on the topic because our relationship seems to always need attention. It’s so easy to silently retreat to your corners and not address the issues. And there were years where we did just that.
 
In fact, over the past few years, Chris and I have been working through some really heavy issues with a couples therapist.
 
Today I share very personal revelations I’ve had about my own role in causing problems between us. After all we’ve been through, I’m really proud of my husband, Chris, and me for making it this long and doing the work to make it better.
 
In the process of working hard to improve our relationship, I learned six powerful lessons that I felt compelled to share with you. Not because I hold the magic wand, but because I hope these lessons will save you the pain and heartaches I’ve caused myself and my husband.
 
No matter what kind of relationship you might be in, working on, struggling with, or hoping to save, these six lessons will provide a roadmap to make it better.
 
Whether you are married, dating, divorced, happily single, or experiencing a falling out with a friend, this episode will have something for you.
 
About halfway through, another listener asks,
 
“What do I do if my partner doesn’t want to do the work?” 
 
In that case, there’s just one rule for when it’s time for you to move on.
 
Oh, one more thing, if you and your partner are having a hard time… Share this episode with them. It’s a simple way to open the door for a much-needed conversation.
 
Xo Mel 
 

In this episode, you’ll learn:


0:30: The one question you often ask that I put off answering for a long time.
3:30: Here’s the hard truth you should know about my marriage.
6:30: Here’s what I think about “staying in a marriage for the kids”
8:30: The concerning relationship trend I see happening.
15:00: Would I be better off without my husband?
18:15: This is the only way relationships work out.
24:30: What I was doing wrong in my own marriage.
28:00: 6 pieces of advice for any relationship.
37:30: Here’s why the way you react to your partner’s good news matters.
43:00: What do you do when your partner isn’t growing with you?
 
 
 
Disclaimer

I Don’t Usually Share Advice Like This: 6 Lessons on Making Any Relationship Work

In this episode, you will learn how to deepen your healing by understanding how your parents may have created silent trauma that is still impacting you as an adult.
 
I want to introduce you to a woman who has had a really big impact on my own healing. 
 
She is the renowned psychologist and #1 New York Times bestselling author, Dr. Nicole LePera, who you may also know as The Holistic Psychologist.
 
Today, Dr. LePera will normalize the common experience of having few memories from childhood.
 
This is something that I struggled with silently. I personally have very few memories from my childhood, and I assumed there was something wrong with me.
 
It was only when I started sharing about this lack of memories online that I realized I wasn’t the only person who can’t reminisce about their past.
 
I now understand why this happens. I also know there is nothing wrong with me.
 
And if you have very few memories from your childhood, there’s nothing wrong with you either.
 
Today, we are digging into parenting styles and how your childhood experiences (whether you remember them or not) are still impacting the way you respond to stress as an adult.
 
The research and tools in this conversation will help you understand not only why it’s so easy to get triggered, but also how to deepen your healing journey now that you do.
 
This is one of those episodes that I also know you will be sending to family, friends, and siblings because there is so much empowering information here.
 
I personally made all three of our kids listen because I both recognize as a daughter how my childhood impacted me – and as a mom, I’m also very aware that my parenting style has impacted my kids.
 
And, Dr. LePera so beautifully teaches us how to take control of the rest of our lives as adults.
 
Xo Mel 
 
PS: After you listen to this one, listen to “Take Control of Your Life: A Toolkit for Healing” if you haven’t yet, because I’m sharing details from the last few years of my healing journey.
 
Plus, there’s a companion workbook to help you go deeper.
 
In this episode, you’ll learn:


3:00: So many of you wrote in about this particular detail of trauma.
8:00: Childhood amnesia – What the heck is that?
9:30: Here are 3 reasons why you don’t have many childhood memories.
11:30: What do psychologists mean by “dysregulated nervous system?”
15:00: Introducing my friend and world-renowned psychologist, Dr. Nicole LePera.
17:45: What’s an emotionally immature parent and how do you know if you had one?
24:30: Two big reasons why your brain shuts down in childhood.
28:00: Do you need to remember your past trauma to recognize it in yourself?
35:00: What does it look like in real life when you start to heal your nervous system?
37:30: Is trauma only for those who’ve lived through a big, horrific event?
44:00: Here is why the silent treatment can be harmful. 
48:00: Here’s your first tactical step toward healing your body and mind.
53:15: Feeling cynical about your own healing process? You need to hear this.
 

Disclaimer
 
If you uncover or have a history of trauma, consider enlisting the support of a trained therapist. This podcast episode and the companion workbook are not meant to be a substitute for therapeutic support.

Why Do I Have Few Memories From Childhood? Deepen Your Healing & Find Answers With Dr. Nicole LePera

In this episode, I’m making the topic of trauma easier to understand by taking you step by step through my recent revelation that I was struggling with past trauma.
 
I was one of those people who thought I didn’t have trauma. And you may be like that too.
 
But if you have trouble managing emotions, expressing your feelings, dealing with upset, you go on edge easily, you have trouble focusing, or you struggle with anything like anxiety….
 
This will be very eye opening.
 
The words “trauma” and “nervous system” are thrown around like candy online.
 
I want to share the profound things that I’ve learned about both topics and how I’ve started to address and heal the trauma in my nervous system.
 
This episode is personal, it’s important, and tactical, and most of all – it’s packed with tools you can start using right now.
 
I hope this episode opens your eyes in the way that it did mine, and makes you not only understand this topic – but yourself a little bit better.
 
And, to go deeper, I have a free 9-page workbook for you that serves as a companion to this episode to help you with your own healing.
 
Just click here to access it. 
 
And, this episode covers sensitive material, including discussion of trauma and sexual assault. If this topic isn’t for you right now – please skip this episode.
 
Xo Mel 
 
In this episode, you’ll learn:


0:58: This episode is one of the most important I’ve ever created because of the powerful impact these learnings have had on my life. It will be the same for you.
7:40: What is trauma anyway?
8:40: Do you recognize yourself in these signs of past trauma?
10:00: Getting honest: my personal story.
21:15: What happens to me when I hear the sound of crunchy snow (and how this applies to you).
24:00: Do you have to remember trauma to heal from it?
30:30: If I have little-T trauma, does that mean my parents are to blame?
34:40: This is what your nervous system is (and it’s not what I used to think).
43:15: Here’s why your triggers were helpful then and why they’re not now.
50:00: How can you get yourself out of survival mode and start to focus again?
54:00: The difference between your two nervous systems.
56:30: Six takeaways to help you switch from fight or flight to rest and recovery
 
Disclaimer
 
If you uncover or have a history of trauma, consider enlisting the support of a trained therapist. This podcast episode and the companion workbook are not meant to be a substitute for therapeutic support.

Take Control of Your Life: A Toolkit for Healing

In this episode, you’ll learn how to use simple neuroscience to train your mind to start working for you.
 
The research, tools, and strategies you’ll learn in this episode are from an experience I created and taught to more than 250,000 students called “Mindset Reset.”
 
The fact is, your mindset is critical to your happiness, success, relationships, and fulfillment.
 
Listen to today’s episode and you’ll learn how to train your mind using this easy, science-backed method.
 
By the end of this episode, you’ll know how to use an amazing filter in your brain to reset your mindset.
 
This episode is also packed with takeaways and insights you can apply to your life and one surprisingly fun “brain game” you can play every day (even with your kids) to actively program a more powerful mindset.
 
I can’t wait to share this with you and for you to apply it to your life and share it with the people who matter to you most.
 
Xo Mel
 
For full show notes, including all research mentioned in the episode, go to melrobbins.com/podcast.
 
This episode, you’ll learn:
4:15: What does “mindset” even mean?
9:00: The truth about why mindset matters.
10:00: Is this just toxic positivity?
16:30: Your brain has a filter. And if you’re not programming it, it’s probably working against you.
26:00: How to beat self-doubt.
31:00: Why you’re not meeting that special someone.
37:00: The fun and simple brain game I play with my daughters. 
47:45: What to do when your thoughts and mindset spiral into the negative.
55:00: I want this for you.
 
 
 

Disclaimer

Mindset Reset Toolkit: How to Make Your Mind Work for You (Using Simple Neuroscience)

In this episode, you’re about to learn how to make your new habits stick.
 
If you’ve struggled to be consistent with behavior change, you’re not alone. It’s easy to talk about habits. It’s a whole different thing to apply the science to your life.
 
You are not the problem.
 
The problem, when it comes to habits, is the lack of systems and hacks that help you stay consistent.
 
There are 5 very specific, simple systems backed by science that you have to have in place if you want to make your new habits stick for good.
 
It doesn’t matter if you’ve already bailed on your New Year’s resolutions or if the only habit you think you’re successful at is failing at habits. I’ve got you.
 
If your treadmill just became the most expensive laundry hanger you’ve ever purchased, then this episode is for you.
 
I’ll say it again: 
 
It’s not you; it’s your lack of systems.
 
Stop relying on willpower to get you through.
 
That’s not what you need. The research says you need systems.
 
Today, I’ll teach you 5 essential ones.
 
Let’s go, because your behavior toolkit masterclass series continues.
 
Xo Mel 
 
For full show notes, including all research mentioned in the episode, go to melrobbins.com/podcast.
 
For a free workbook that dives deeper into the topic of habits and helps you apply what you learn, click here.
 
This episode works together with the episode “The Ultimate Toolkit for Creating New Habits.” After you finish this one, check out that episode here.
 
This episode, you’ll learn:
1:36: Why it’s important to understand how to make habits stick
4:50: The 75-day challenge I’ve taken on this year 
9:30: The honest conversation you need to have with yourself before any change
13:35: What to do if you don’t even know where to start with habits
15:55: The five systems that will help you finally stick to your habits
24:00: A simple hack from Harvard Business School to help you make better decisions
28:25: The simple trick that helped people be twice as successful at quitting smoking
32:40: The M&M experiment that proves decision fatigue is a real thing
38:24: Why tracking your progress is non-negotiable 
49:30: The plan that will save your promises to yourself
51:35: The “keys to the kingdom” – establish this habit and others will follow more easily
 
 

 

Disclaimer

5 Essential Hacks I’m Using to Make New Habits Stick

In this episode, you’re going to learn exactly what you need to form new habits.
 
Even if you think you already know everything there is to know about habits, you probably still struggle to apply this knowledge and make change stick.
 
And if this topic is brand new to you, don’t worry; I have a way of explaining it that’s fun, and so simple even a 5-month-old puppy can understand it.
 
Just because it’s science doesn’t mean it has to be complicated and boring.
 
When we make change fun and easy to understand, you’re more likely to be successful in applying all of this research.
 
That’s why this episode also comes with a free companion workbook, so that you not only listen and learn, but also go deeper and apply what you’re learning to your own life.
 
You can download that for free at melrobbins.com/habits.
 
I’ll teach you the three critical parts of forming new habits, and together we’ll unpack the brain research that explains why these parts are essential to your habit-making routine.
 
When you’re done listening, you’re going to see that you’re making the same mistake most people make: you’re only focused on one part of forming a habit, and you’re missing the other two.
 
I’m really excited for you to listen, learn, and apply all this knowledge.
 
New habits begin as something you practice, and after applying this over time, they become who you are.
 
Xo Mel 
 
Get your free companion download at melrobbins.com/habits.
 
For full show notes, including all research mentioned in the episode, go to melrobbins.com/podcast.
 

In this episode, you’ll learn:
8:00: Why willpower doesn’t work
11:15: Why we struggle with new habits
12:30: What actually is a habit?
15:15: The free gift I have for you
15:50: Why are habits important?
19:50: What the research says about successful people
25:10: What’s getting in the way of your new habits
25:50: Three critical parts to all new habits must have
27:40: Two ways Chris and I set ourselves up to succeed with our habits
32:45: Six types of behavior triggers 
38:50 What to do if you want to stop that nightly glass of wine
 

 

Disclaimer

The Ultimate Toolkit for Creating New Habits: The Science Made Easy

This is the pep talk you need.



Change is hard.



Which means you’re going to want to quit or give up.



I call those moments F*** It Moments.



Today’s episode is a little different because you’re going to hear me get in someone’s face who is about to throw in the towel on a big goal and a promise that she has made.



When you hear me coach her, it will be like I’m coaching you.



And once you’re done listening, I promise you won’t be saying F*** it, you’ll be saying F*** yes.



Xo Mel 



PS: If you’re frustrated with somebody in your life who keeps calling it quits, let me do the honors and deliver the ass-kicking for you.



For full show notes, including all research mentioned in the episode, go to melrobbins.com/podcast.



In this episode, you’ll learn:



2:55: Why I started to cry when it came time to record this episode
6:22: The one stupid thing that sent me spiraling into anxiety
10:40: What Chris told me when I was ready to quit that made all the difference
11:55: What I especially want you to know about you and these F-It moments
12:50: Listen in as I coach a woman through her own F** It moment
32:15: What triggers most addictive behaviors
35:40: What’s REALLY a F*** It moment?
37:55: Why F-It moments are actually good
38:35: How to process your F*** It moment
40:05: One thing I want you to hear loud and clear about screwing up





Disclaimer

Feel like giving up? Before you say F*** It, listen to this.

This episode will help you set the right goals for you.
 
Goals matter. They make your life easier and they create a sense of purpose and meaning.
 
But most people don’t set goals the right way, which is why they fail before they even start.
 
That’s not going to be you.
 
This episode is a comprehensive toolkit that will help you set the goals that inspire you and make you feel excited about the year ahead. 
 
And, it’s part of our month-long series covering the foundational research and topics related to creating a better life.
 
Today, you’re not only going to learn the correct way to set goals according to research, you’re also going to identify 1-3 goals for yourself, and I’ll be doing the same thing right along with you. 
 
Have no idea what your goals are or where to even start?
 
Don’t worry; you will by the end of the episode.
 
You’ll apply the latest research every single step of the way. 
 
And that’s not all. 
 
You can access a free companion workbook at melrobbins.com/goals that will walk you through everything we’re talking about so you can go even deeper into this conversation.
 
Expect your goals to change as you listen to this episode, so don’t worry about doing any of this “right.” 
 
By the end of this episode you will have even taken the first steps toward your goal. 
 
How cool is that? I can’t wait. Let’s get started.
 
Xo Mel
 
For full show notes, including all research mentioned in the episode, go to melrobbins.com/podcast.
 
For a free worksheet that dives deeper into the episode and helps you apply what you learn, click here.
 
In this episode, you’ll learn:
1:15: How do I set goals the right way?
2:56: Why setting goals is so important: the truth from research
8:24: The exciting new research about goals from Dr. Birkman that you need to know
10:56: My three goals for 2023
13:05: I’m answering your top question about goals
13:27: Four science-backed hacks to use when you’re not sure what your goals are
16:20: Three qualities of the best goals
21:48: Two components of a goal that you’ve got to have in order to achieve it 
27:07: What neuroscience says about why your brain needs these two components
31:25: The five mistakes we all make when we set and try to achieve goals
42:41: A powerful question about goals from Columbia University researchers that you should ask yourself
44:57: Why setting a “high-low range goal” will make you more successful
50:33: The most important thing you should do once you set a goal
53:06: Here’s the crazy irony about achieving your goals
 
Disclaimer

Goal Setting Toolkit: Why Behavior Change Often Fails & How to Set the Right Goals for You

I want this year to be the best year of your life. 

So we’re going to talk about the one habit that researchers say has the biggest, overall impact on the quality of your life. 

And that habit is learning to be kind and loving to yourself. 

We all know we need to learn how to love ourselves, but no one has taught you HOW. 

Until now.

In this episode, I am teaching you how to start loving yourself with a simple habit that you can add to your morning routine. 

I’ve got loads of research to prove why this habit matters and how it will change your life. 

And bring your Kleenex.

Today I’m not only answering questions from some listeners about self-love, I also invited my husband, Chris, to come on and explain why he thought this habit was so stupid when I first shared it with him. 

The conversation took a turn that I was not expecting.

It gets very personal and both Chris and I end up crying. He shares details about a period of his life where the shame and sense of failure were so palpable that he couldn’t even look himself in the mirror. I’m so proud of him, and moved by his vulnerability.

This is an episode every man, boy, or anyone who identifies as male needs to hear. It’s not just we women who struggle with self-love; the men in your life are struggling, too. That’s why we all need to be practicing this habit every single morning. 

You’re going to learn that love is not something you feel; it’s something you must demonstrate. And that’s what I’m going to teach you to do. 

You’ll want to listen until the very end, because you’ll meet a woman whose entire life trajectory changed by simply trying this habit once.

Want to learn more? All of the research - and there’s a lot of it - is linked in the show notes at melrobbins.com/podcast. And if you want to watch a longer, unabridged version of this episode, visit my YouTube channel.

Xo Mel


In this episode, you’ll learn:

1:50  The habit that has changed the lives of thousands of people
3:50 HOW do I love myself?
4:28 Why it’s so hard to love yourself
5:11 The secret to self-love
6:04 What the science says about why you should do this after brushing your teeth
7:05 50% of people find it impossible to do this
9:30 Learn about neurobics and how it helps you learn a new habit faster.
12:22 The dopamine hit that boosts your mood
14:09 What you tell yourself every time you do this one habit
15:25 One study about how this habit creates winning teams
16:40 How this habit helped kids perform better and work longer
20:48 Why my husband, Chris, thought this habit was ridiculous at first
22:20 The profound insight Chris had when he took the 5-day challenge
25:19 Why you’re going to want to share this with the men in your life
25:55 When in his life Chris started to feel like a failure
34:00 What all men struggle with
36:39 What Chris has to say to all the men out there
40:20 Why I sign off every letter and every episode the way I do
45:00 The message from a listener that every skeptic needs to hear


For full show notes, go to melrobbins.com/podcast
To take the High 5 Challenge, go to High5Challenge.com.
Get The High 5 Habit book or eBook.

The One Science-Backed Habit You Need in 2023

In this episode, I am sharing 8 brand new studies and exciting new research about simple changes supported by science that can help you improve your day to day life, like…


How to cut your gym time IN HALF and still get the same benefits. 


The surprising sound researchers say will boost your mood for EIGHT hours. 


The research on how mindfulness reduces your anxiety by 30% -  the same as Lexapro.


And so much more


I’m also joined by Tracey, who leads our research and has helped me produce five #1 Audible Originals and all the science behind it. 


She’s found the studies; we are breaking them down together, and having a ball as we do. 


This episode is going to make you smarter and is packed with the tactical, simple, and science-backed tools that I know you love learning on this podcast. 


Pull up a seat and let’s go.


Oh! And one more thing. As always, all of the research - and there’s a lot of it - is linked in the show notes at melrobbins.com/podcast. And if you want to watch a longer, unabridged version of this episode, visit my YouTube channel.


Xo Mel 



In this episode, you’ll learn:

0:13: Why the research studies and science you will learn today matter
4:35: Why you can trust the tools you learn on this podcast
5:56: Research study #1: A simple action that goes a long way
12:32: Research study #2: The way to build strength in just 3 seconds a day
19:25: Research study #3: The one sound that boosts your mood for hours 
26:43: Research study #4: A powerful tool for anxiety
31:35: Research study #5: What a study with 20,000 high schoolers tells us about success
36:56: Research study #6: One thing you can do to create lifelong positive memories
44:43: Research study #7: How tiny guilty pleasures can strengthen your relationship with your partner
52:01: Research study #8: The habit with the largest impact on your quality of life


For full show notes, including a links to every single study and citation mentioned on today’s episode, go to melrobbins.com/podcast

Brand New Research: 8 Simple & Surprising Changes That Improve Your Life

Have you ever had one of those years where life seems to punch you in the face?
 
Where one thing after another knocks you down, over and over, until you start to feel like you are never getting back up.
 
Well, that was this past year for me.
 
People I trusted betrayed me. Plus, I was living 150 miles away from my husband and son, alone in Boston during the week for work. I never saw my friends because I was too busy working. I wasn’t exercising. I wasn’t taking care of myself in general. Honestly, I felt really lonely all the time.
 
And looking back at pictures of myself from that time, it’s easy to see all of that in my face.
 
I think we all know that the greatest lessons in life come from the most challenging things that you face. And while it’s true, it’s not easy when you are in the middle of it.
 
This past year taught me 3 invaluable lessons, and today I’m sharing them with you. 
 
I know you’re going to nod along because you know these lessons are true.
 
I don’t know why they are so damn hard to learn, but my hope is that by sharing what I struggled through and what I learned from, it will save you the headache and heartache that this year put me through.
 
Xo Mel 
 

In this episode, you’ll learn:
 
0:24: The gory details from the hardest year of my life
7:02: Lesson #1 from this year
8:30: The journal prompt that gave me a wake up call
11:43: How to identify the friction in your life and a major warning if you don’t pay attention
15:21: Lesson #2 from this year
16:55: How this podcast almost never came to be
22:36: The epiphany our son Oakley had
27:04: If you’re tired of your excuses… try THIS
28:49: Lesson #3 from this year
32:31: The mental health crisis I experienced this year and what it taught me
 
For full show notes, go to melrobbins.com/podcast

3 Lessons From One of the Hardest Years of My Life

I’ve got a very special invitation for you today.
 
Grab a spot on the couch next to me and my family here in Southern Vermont. 
 
Join our family as our three kids discuss all the parenting mistakes Chris and I made – and the things we did that built trust and brought us all closer.
 
I’m really excited and proud to share this with you, even though there are moments where my kids absolutely school me.
 
They also share wisdom and insights that are so profound, you’ll hear Chris break down and cry.
 
This really isn’t a conversation about parenting at all. It’s about how you create a close and meaningful connection with anyone.
 
So whether you’re wondering how to get closer to your family or your friends, everything we discuss applies to all relationships.
 
This episode goes deep – we cover drinking, drugs, addiction, and what to do when teenagers stop talking to you or someone you love is dating someone that you don’t like.
 
And, since so many of you have written in asking about my approach to parenting after hearing our kids on various episodes of this podcast, I’m also sharing our parenting philosophy.
 
My family is getting real and raw in this discussion, and we’re inviting you to be a part. So join us. I can’t wait to hear your thoughts on this episode, and one thing you might want to consider is listening to it with your family. I guarantee you, it will spark very interesting discussions.
 
Xo Mel 
 
In this episode, you’ll learn:
 
0:32: Why I recorded today’s episode
3:25: Meet the Robbins family
6:02: You keep asking: How are my kids so open with me?
7:30: A frank discussion on drinking
12:33: Why people don’t listen to you
14:10: What Chris and I think the whole point of parenting really is
18:27: Let’s talk about addiction, including groundbreaking new research from Mt. Sinai
25:15: Our #1 piece of advice that will keep people honest with you
30:55: What we mean when we say people in your life are “lie detectors”
33:07: Why showing your feelings to loved ones is so powerful
36:58: How to build connection with anyone
40:52: When you keep repeating patterns you wish you could break
44:44: Why you need to let kids be themselves
50:52: Why you shouldn’t let people bounce from uncomfortable situations
52:39: “I don’t like who my kid is dating” – advice that applies for any relationship
1:01:52: Our #1 piece of advice for you
 
For full show notes, go to melrobbins.com/podcast

A Toolkit for Families: Practical Wisdom That Makes You Closer to the People You Love

I know you’re busy. Which is why today’s message is the one thing you need to hear right now.
 
I need this message too. We all do.
 
Because there’s only one thing I want you to do this week:
 
NOTHING.
 
That’s right. I want you to do absolutely nothing.
 
No, I’m not smoking anything funny when I say this. I’m dead serious.
 
Hear me out.
 
There is an art and a science to doing nothing, and we need to put it into our daily lives.
 
All this constant doing is impacting your energy, your drive, your stamina, and your ability to be present, which in turn affects the decisions you make and your relationships.
 
Look at it this way. What are you doing right now?
 
Because I bet you’re scrolling through podcast episodes to listen to as you jump on your Peloton, drive to work, fold laundry, organize your desk, or whatever it is you do when you multitask.
 
You and I live in a world that glorifies productivity and accomplishment. The busier we are, the more important we must be.
 
But all that busyness is not making you happier or healthier. In fact, you’re writing to me every day asking how to deal with burnout and overwhelm.
 
And look, I’m not exactly an expert. I struggle with this too, which is why I wanted to talk about it.
 
I can’t even take a freakin’ bath without feeling the urge to answer emails on my phone (and oftentimes, I do).
 
Like you, I have absolutely no idea how to do nothing.
 
But I know I need to learn how to turn off and unplug, even if it’s just for a minute.
 
This episode is the tough love that we all need. And it won’t require you to take a week off from work or be somebody who meditates all day. 
 
We’re going to talk about how to create moments of peace in your daily life, no matter how complicated it may seem right now.
 
So whether you’re on vacation, studying for exams, running your own company, raising a family, or you’re in between three jobs, this episode is for all of us. And it’s one you deserve.
 
Xo Mel 
 
In this episode, you’ll learn:
 
0:12: The only thing you should do this week – and why
10:02: How to remain hopeful when you’re in the trenches and surrounded by high achievers
13:19: The only advice you should be following
15:41: Should you listen to people who don’t understand your life?
17:36: How I handle jealousy
19:25: How to make time for rest when it feels like a guilty pleasure
24:00: How to get out of your head and into the moment
26:40: What you and I will do at 2:13 pm every day
33:29: The difference between laziness and procrastination (and how it applies to you)
 
For full show notes, go to melrobbins.com/podcast

There Is Only One Thing You Should Do This Week

I’m checking in on you and me. There's a lot going on in the world right now, and I am still reeling from the news that Stephen ‘tWitch’ Boss died from suicide.

If you had to ask me to list the 5 most positive people on the planet, The Rock would be #1, and tWitch would be #2.

Having lost too many friends and people I love to mental health challenges like depression, addiction, trauma, and hopelessness – all of who died from suicide – I’m just so heavy with emotion. 

tWitch was beloved by millions for being Ellen DeGeneres’ executive producer, dance partner, and DJ on her talk show. He was a part of people’s lives 5 days a week, for years. He competed on So You Think You Can Dance and he had one of those million-dollar smiles that just lit up every room he walked into. He is followed by millions of people online who love the adorable dances that he, his wife Allison, and his 3 kids do.

Seeing such a bright light like tWitch go out so suddenly at the age of 40, with 3 beautiful kids, a huge life, and adoring fans around the world…

It just stirred up so much sadness inside of me, and this may be stirring up a lot inside of you. 

You don’t have to know tWitch personally (I didn’t – I am just a fan) to be profoundly impacted by the news of his death.

This may be bringing up experiences of loss from your own life. It may also be reminding you of moments when you were really struggling, which is another reason why I felt the urgency to talk to you today.

And I thought, maybe you’re sad too
Or having a hard time processing how someone who seemed to “have it all” and “so much talent” could come to a point where this could happen.
Or maybe you are going through a tough time yourself.
Or maybe you just need a friend to tell you it’s going to be okay and give you a boost.

So I wanted to connect.

I decided to roll out of bed, get right on the mic, and share what I'm feeling and how I'm thinking about tWitch's death so we can process this together.

Please take 14 minutes to listen to this powerful message.

I share my thoughts about how to process news like this and I also emphasize something tWitch always said:

Be kind.

Today, be kind.

You never know what another person is going through, so be kind.
And always, be kind to yourself.

One thing you can do today is reach out to people you love. You never know what it’s going to mean to someone. If you don’t know what to say, you can share this episode.

And, if you are in pain right now. PLEASE. There’s a difference between wanting to end the pain you feel, and wanting to end your life.

You can end the pain with support and by taking small steps forward every single day. 

It can and it will get better.

Please, if you need help, pick up the phone. You deserve support.

Trained volunteers are standing by to help you. Call the National Suicide Hotline, which is 988 in the US. Different languages are available – click here.

Or, text HOME to 741-741 for the Crisis Text Line.

Thanks for reading this and listening to this episode. And I just wanted to end by saying, I love you and it means more than you know that you are here.

I Didn’t Expect to Record This: I Want to Talk to You About tWitch’s Death

I’ve lived with ADHD, dyslexia, and anxiety for most of my life.

And I’ve spent the last decade immersed in research around how to improve my mental health, but only recently did I realize there was a big missing piece to the puzzle when it came to being happier, more confident, and more present.

That’s taking care of the brain.

Your brain is your problem-solver.
It’s your memory keeper.
It’s a supercomputer.

If the physical health of your brain sucks, it’s like having a beer belly with IBS for a brain.

If you’re really committed to being a happier and healthier person, it's common sense to keep your brain happy and healthy. But…

The science can be complicated and boring.

More serotonin and dopamine would be great… but I zone out when I am looking at all the research.

That’s why I asked one of the leading experts on brain health to be here today. Dr. Daniel Amen has 40 years of experience as a psychiatrist, 12 New York Times bestselling books, and he’s conducted over 200,000 brain scans, all of which back up the simple tactics he’s about to share with you.

Today’s episode is jam-packed with practical information, so you may even want to listen twice. You can make your brain stronger and more resilient. There are specific changes you can make today, including supplements to take, a change to your walking style, a specific breathing technique to reduce anxiety, and more.

Dr. Amen will also share the one powerful question he’s been asking himself every single day that keeps his brain strong.

He also shares a recipe for a delicious mug of “brain healthy hot chocolate.” I’ll drink to that and a little Brain Health 101.

Xo Mel 

You will learn:

1:34: The results of my brain scan – and a huge finding that was discovered in my husband’s brain scan
9:37: A simple 101 on the brain
13:14: The 3 most important habits that have the biggest impact on brain health
15:41: The exact thing to say to yourself first thing in the morning to improve your brain
16:57: The specific two vitamins that are most important for the health of your brain
19:38: The difference between serotonin and dopamine and how to achieve balance between the two
25:08: How to tell if you have low dopamine & how to increase it
28:55: Why strength training is so important for your overall health
30:21: What cortisol is, why it matters, and how to reduce it
32:03: The one specific breathing exercise that Dr. Amen recommends for an anxious mind
36:06: How to calm a busy brain
39:22: The 3 most important words for mental training
41:27: What to do if you feel chronically tired
43:30: The 5 most important foods for brain health
44:21: How to make brain-healthy hot chocolate
47:06: What a psychiatrist of 40 years would never do because it’s bad for your brain

Hacking Dopamine & Simple Ways to Improve Your Brain Health

Today you and I are digging into three things you must accept about other people. 

It took me years to understand these truths.

It sounds horrible, but I always wondered, “What’s wrong with people? Why don’t they change?”

I know you can relate. Because today I’m taking your questions about trying to change other people. 

You’re frustrated by the fact that your spouse or partner won’t exercise more. You get angry seeing how much money your daughter wastes going out every weekend. You’re annoyed by how stubborn your parents have become the older they get.

Me too.

I’ve tried every tactic you can imagine to get other people to change. And recently I realized the true source of my frustration: It’s not them, it’s me.

I’m refusing to accept three things.

These things are hard to accept, and they’re true.

Once you hear them and you apply them to your life, your relationships will be way easier.

In addition to the three truths about other people, you’ll learn research that explains why it’s so hard to get other people to change. And like all episodes, this one is packed with tactical advice and takeaways that you can put to use immediately.

And, if you’re the one who’s busy making changes but your loved ones are not being supportive, I answer that question from a listener, too.

I feel compelled to answer your questions because so many of you are improving your life with the tools you’re learning on this podcast and your family is starting to get annoyed with you. That’s okay. It shows you’re making progress (but it doesn’t make it easy).

Hopefully today’s episode will.

Xo Mel 

Key lessons:

3:12: 3 powerful truths you have to accept about people.
4:33: Rule #1 explained
6:02: How do you deal with people who don’t want to change?
9:00: Why some people can’t change.
12:42: I’m embarrassed to tell you this story.
19:49: Rule #2 explained
20:37: Rule #3 explained
21:44: My “6-month rule” for any complainer
32:03: What do when the people around you don’t support the changes you’re making
40:23: The science of “Myside bias” and what it says about human nature

For full show notes, go to melrobbins.com/podcast

Do you want to create a better morning routine? Join my free 5-day Wake Up Challenge and I’ll coach day by day on setting your day up for success here.

3 Things You Need to Accept About Other People

Have you ever had such a powerful coincidence happen in your life that you think…

This must be a sign.

The person sitting next to you at an event turns out to be part of the team you’re interviewing with next week.

There is a hummingbird outside your apartment window on move-in day, and your grandmother always said she’d come back as one.

You’re sitting in your favorite coffee shop, thinking of someone you haven’t seen in a long time, and right at that moment, they text you.

You can’t explain how these things happen, but when they do, they give you goosebumps and make you feel just a little bit more confident and less alone.

I personally love it when this happens. And I’m always on the lookout for signs that my life is moving in the right direction.

Well, what if I told you that you can create more moments like this?

That’s what we’re talking about today.

These moments have a name: they’re called “synchronicities.”

And my guest today is Dr. Tom Myers, a professor who researched and wrote his entire Ph.D. dissertation on the subject.

You’re about to learn simple steps that will train your brain to create more of these impactful synchronicities in your own life, and three powerful reasons why it’s important that you do so.

Today, you and I are hanging out at the intersection of psychology, science, and spirituality.

Wouldn’t it be nice if your life had more of these magical moments?

Looking for signs that you’re on the right path is not some cheesy thing to do; it’s yet another way you can get intentional about training your brain to help you experience life in a whole new way.

I’ll also share a few stories from my life that are not only examples of synchronicity, but they will also give you goosebumps.

I can’t wait to hear your “goosebump” stories, and I hope what you learn from our conversation today will teach you how to create more of them.

Xo Mel 

I talk more about synchronicity, including a powerful story from my life and how to create more of them, in my New York Times bestselling book The High 5 Habit.

For complete show notes, including links to every research study mentioned, see the episode page at melrobbins.com/podcast

Train Your Mind: How & Why the Science of Synchronicity Can Improve Your Life

I was lying in bed one morning, and all of a sudden it hit me…

If I ever want to be truly happy, I have to stop doing THIS.

So do you.

What is this thing we need to stop doing?

I call it the “Campaign of Misery.”  

In the background of your mind, there’s a campaign of misery running on a loop. And until you stop it, you will never experience the happiness, joy and contentment you deserve. 

I promise you - it is there. In the background - talking to you all the time. 

This is the missing piece to true happiness. 

When you remove the campaign of misery, you create room for joy.

I recorded this episode the same morning I had this profound insight.  What you're about to hear is a conversation with me and two friends and colleagues, Amy and Jessie. Pull up a seat at the kitchen table; I want you to hear me unpacking this breakthrough about happiness in real time.

My two friends saw their “campaign of misery” immediately and started describing in detail the ridiculous ways they torture themselves. You’ll laugh, you’ll nod along, and you might even cry a little. We sure did.

Because when you realize how much you rob yourself of the happiness you deserve, it is sad. 

I always say, this isn’t just a listening podcast, it’s a doing podcast. So by the end, there’s something specific I will be asking you to do with us while you listen. 

In three simple steps, you will join us as we put down the sword, grab a book of matches, and pick up the pen to write new default programming into our minds. 

Don’t worry, I’ll explain why you need matches near the end of the episode.

And you’ll be so happy that I did.

You have the power to change the way you think and the way you talk to yourself. You have the power to stop seeing all the reasons your life is hard and teach yourself to see how this could be easier. 

Yes, you can be happy.

You can be content.

But first, you have to stop making yourself miserable. Let’s support one another on this. 

If we fight this battle for happiness together, side-by-side, I am certain we will win.

Xo Mel 

In this episode, you’ll learn:
What happens when you get caught up in your stories
My profound breakthrough around the importance of mindfulness
How to start celebrating yourself right now, no matter your mindset
The 3 incredibly powerful mindset hacks I did with my friends and colleagues, Amy & Jessie

Go deeper:

Do you want to create a better morning routine? Join my free 5-day Wake Up Challenge and I’ll coach day by day on setting your day up for success here.

Morning Pages inspired by Julia Cameron: The Artist’s Way

For complete show notes, click here.

You’ll Never Be Truly Happy Until You Start Doing This

Buckle up and get ready to take notes because this episode is a masterclass.
 
The tools you’re about to learn will help you become more confident, influential, and even make more money.
 
Today, we’re talking about The “It” Factor.
 
Some people just seem to have IT, right?
 
When I think of The It Factor, people like Oprah, The Rock, Taylor Swift, the Dalai Lama, and Martin Luther King, Jr. come to mind.
 
These people make you want to lean in, join in, and learn more.
 
So today we’re asking…
 
What is “It” that some people have that makes us automatically trust and like them?
 
And, more importantly, how can you get it?
 
Here to answer that question is Vanessa Van Edwards, a best-selling author, researcher, and founder of the behavior lab The Science of People.
 
I cannot wait for you to dig into what she has researched.
 
Turns out The It Factor has another name: charisma.
 
And the good news?
 
YOU can learn how to have charisma, starting today.
 
You’re going to want to. Research finds that charismatic people are more influential, earn a higher income, and have a bigger impact at work, in their communities, and in their relationships.
 
The secret to hacking it? Social cues, like body language and the way you speak.
 
That’s why today’s episode is a masterclass.
 
You’ll learn… 
Shocking research from Princeton about how people size you up
3 things you must do in the first 10 seconds of a Zoom call
Tips for nailing an interview
The major mistake you’re making as you speak
How to ask for a raise
A simple test that will help you figure out how charismatic you are
Why you never want to fake a smile
Tips for charisma for introverts
Why a second impression is as important as the first
 
That’s just the tip of the iceberg. Today’s episode is jam-packed with simple, tactical research and tools that will help you and anyone you care about develop the skill of charisma.
 
And you deserve that. 
 
Xo Mel 
 
Join the free 5-day Wake Up Challenge with me and master your morning routine here.
 
All show notes for this episode can be found at melrobbins.com/podcast

Check out the video version of this podcast on my YouTube channel here.

The “It” Factor: How to Hack Charisma & Use Body Language to Boost Your Influence, Income, and Impact

Whatever you're doing right now, stop and make time for this conversation.
 
Every single day, I get questions from listeners about self-love, self-hatred, and what it actually means to like yourself.
 
I understand why it’s confusing. 
 
The topic of self-love is so broad, and there is very little actionable advice on how exactly you learn to like yourself, especially if you’ve spent your whole life being hard on yourself.
 
So don’t worry, I’ve decided to attack this topic of self-love in a completely unique, surprising, and tactical manner. This is also one of the most personal episodes I’ve released because I’m inviting you to join a conversation I’m having with our 17-year-old son, Oakley.
 
This is not a “podcast interview.” This is an intimate conversation between a mother and a son about the most important topic you could discuss: self-love. 
 
When Oakley was in middle school, he hated himself, and as his mom, it was awful to see him so lonely and sad. In today’s conversation, he shares things with me about this time in his life that I never knew.
 
And more importantly, we unpack the moment he had an epiphany that changed everything.
 
You will absolutely relate to everything he shares and his reflections about it.
 
I’m so proud to share this conversation with you. You will be blown away because you’ll not only feel like you’re part of our family, but we’re also welcoming you into our hearts.
 
You will laugh out loud, even though your heart might break a little. And by the end of it, you’ll have not only wisdom, but also a couple of simple tools to help you learn how to like yourself a little more.
 
This conversation is a must-listen for EVERYONE in your life. And especially for young adults because when they hear these insights from someone their age, it’s way more compelling than getting advice from an adult.
 
I do want to be up front about one thing: Oakley is 17 and like most 17-year-olds, whether they do it in front of you or not, he has a case of the F’s, meaning he drops the F-word a fair number of times, and I made a decision to record it as is and allow him to speak freely.
 
And, I just can’t emphasize enough how much insight this is going to give you into your own relationship with yourself.
 
I hope you will make the time to spend a half hour with the two of us, because I know you will leave feeling seen, understood, and liking yourself a little better.
 
I cannot wait to hear what you learn.
 

Xo Mel 
 

For complete show notes, go to melrobbins.com

How Do I Learn to Love Myself, Really?

I want you to get serious about inserting fun back into the holidays this year.
 
It might seem odd to have an entire conversation about fun. But here’s why we have to: most of us aren’t having any.
 
In fact, it’s gotten so bad that researchers have a term for it: “a fun drought.” You’re not alone – 97% of people want to have more fun.
 
And wouldn’t it be fabulous if you had an absolute blast with your family this holiday season?
 
It is possible. And you’re just the person to make it happen.
 
On the topic of family, I find it interesting that most of the advice out there is focused on toxic family dynamics and boundaries. If your family is that toxic, the only thing you need to do is make other plans. You’re not required to spend time with them.
 
But… if you are planning to spend time with family during the holidays, make this the year you bring the fun.
 
Fun breaks up old dynamics, fun draws people out of their shells, and fun gives you something to talk about other than the weather and how the school year is going.
 
And laughter is not only great medicine, but it also makes you happier and strengthens your relationships with those you’re having fun with!
 
Today you and I are getting serious about fun.
 
In this episode, you’re going to learn the 3 things that get in the way of you having fun – the biggest one being that you don’t plan for it.
 
So, we are going to discuss how to plan for and have more fun, and I’ll give you all kinds of ideas to consider.
 
This is the perfect episode to listen to with your family if you’re traveling. It’s appropriate for all ages.
 
So shake off the dread and pull out the party hats. I’m on a mission to inspire you to have more fun.
 
Xo Mel
 
For complete show notes, go to melrobbins.com

How to Have More Fun: A Guide to Enjoying the Holidays

I used simple research from Harvard Business School and UCLA to tame my fear of public speaking and become one of the most successful keynote speakers in the world.
 
I used this same tool to overcome my fear of flying.
 
If nerves or fear are holding you back from applying for that promotion, asking someone on a date, speaking up at a meeting, or traveling to another part of the world, this brain hack will change your life.
 
Your fears make your life small. Your nerves limit your potential. Your anxiety robs you of happiness and confidence.
 
Today on the podcast, you’ll hear me coach someone through one of her biggest fears.
 
You’ll hear the hilarious ways I used to cope with my fears and you’ll also learn why telling someone to calm down never works.
 
You’ll leave this episode with a 4-step tool that you can apply to your life the moment you learn it.
 
Stop letting your fear make your life small.
 
Board that plane, step onto that stage, apply for that promotion, and never let your nerves stop you from living your life the way that you want to again.
 
And please, share this episode not only with people you love, but particularly with all the young adults in your life, because research shows that this tool not only helps you tame your anxiety – it also helps you perform better on tests, be a better athlete, and compete at a higher level in academic competitions.
 
Xo Mel 

For complete show notes, go to melrobbins.com

The Secret to Stopping Fear & Anxiety (That Actually Works)

What if you could show up in any relationship feeling secure, exactly as you are?
 
You didn’t have to overthink every text you sent. 
 
You wouldn’t have to play the dating games.
 
If somebody ghosted you, it wouldn’t be the end of the world. 
 
Well I’m here to tell you today that you CAN be that person. 
 
Meet the phenomenal Dr. Marisa Franco, New York Times bestselling author of “Platonic” and expert on attachment theory.
 
Today, we’re shining a light on your attachment style.
 
What is an attachment style?
 
Simple. It’s a framework backed by decades of research that will help you understand how you show up in relationships.
 
There are 4 attachment styles, and whether you’re aware of it or not, you default to one of them.
 
If you have a hard time setting boundaries with family members…
 
If you keep dating the same kind of people… 
 
If you cling to relationships that have long expired…
 
Or if you’ve never been able to connect with someone on a deeply emotional level.
 
Blame your attachment style.
 
And here’s the good news: when you understand attachment theory, you can change your default attachment style and become more secure, which leads to happier and healthier relationships.
 
You deserve that, which is why this episode is for you.
 
Today, Dr. Franco breaks down the 4 attachment styles that make or break your relationships, AND the powerful tools you can use to improve them. 
 
Once you understand your attachment style, you’ll have a lens through which to improve absolutely every relationship, especially the one you have with yourself. 
 
Because at the deepest level, becoming more secure is about allowing love in.
 
Xo Mel 

PS: One way to let more love in is to get in touch with your big dreams. Let me help you with a free journal guide: melrobbins.com/dreambig
 
For complete show notes, go to melrobbins.com

How to Improve Any Relationship: The 4 Attachment Styles You Need to Know & Tools to Become More Secure

According to neuroscience research, there are four major mistakes you make when it comes to manifesting.
 
Done correctly, manifesting is a mindset tool that elite athletes and the world’s most successful people use to perform at the highest levels and achieve remarkable goals.
 
Today, I’ll reveal those mistakes and more importantly, teach you how to manifest the right way.
 
This episode is all about the HOW.
 
If you love takeaways and tools, you’ll eat this up.
 
Today I’ll lay it all out for you, step by step.
 
You’ll learn the 4 things you need to do every day if you’re serious about achieving your goals and dreams.
 
So wherever you stand on the topic of manifesting, this episode is a masterclass in both the science and art of doing it.
 
For all my cynics and skeptics, this isn’t what you think it is. This is tactical and based in research.
 
And if you already love vision boards, you’re probably going to have to rip yours up and create a new one once you learn the research related to what works and what doesn’t when it comes to visualization.
 
I promise you are not going to want to miss this one.
 
Xo Mel

To get the free download mentioned in the episode that helps you get in touch with your dreams, go to MelRobbins.com/dreambig
 
For complete show notes, go to melrobbins.com

How to Manifest Anything You Want: 4 Simple Steps Backed by Neuroscience & Olympic Athletes

THIS is the pep talk you need to hear right now.
 
I’m showing up with a level of intensity in a way you’ve never heard me before.
 
We are talking about you and your big dreams.
 
No matter what you're going through in life, your dreams are alive and well and they are waiting for you to wake up and turn toward them.
 
If you’re not ready for some Mel Robbins inspirational firepower, bookmark this for another day. Because I’m not f’ing around today.
 
If you’re done with feeling like you’re doing the same sh*t day in and day out…
 
If you’re tired of your excuses…
 
Or if you're like Barbara, who you will meet in this episode, and you have given up on your dreams because they haven’t materialized yet…
 
This may be the most important 50 minutes of your life.
 
There is a flame inside of you that is still flickering.
 
Today, we are going to throw gasoline on and reignite that fire.
 
You’re ready for this today. I know you are.
 
And more than any other episode, I can't wait to hear how you’re feeling and what you’re doing after you listen to this one.
 
Xo Mel 
 
P.S. A lot of you keep asking how you can motivate the people that you love – your kids, spouses, family members, colleagues. Just share this episode with them and I’ll take care of it.
 
P.P.S. When you’re done listening, you’re going to feel like you’ve been shot out of a cannon and want to know how to level up. A great way to start is jumping into The Wake Up Challenge so I can support you in getting your mornings off to a great start for five days in a row, which is exactly the kind of structure you’re going to need to get started on your dreams.

Your Dreams Are Not a Joke: It’s Time to Dream Big Again & 3 Ways to Get Started

This is the inspiration and wisdom you need to hear today.
 
It’s been quite a week and it’s only Monday.
 
I woke up yesterday and was so sick, I had to cancel some really important work and personal commitments.
 
Cue: the disappointment, the anxiety of upsetting others, and my own sadness that life was not going as I had planned.
 
This is one of those episodes that I recorded for myself and for you. Even when things are really upsetting, you still have the power to face them and take control.
 
Join me in learning one simple, powerful tool. I’ll not only explain it – I’ll also have you practice it with me.
 
I already feel better, and so will you.
 
Xo Mel

The Power of a Pause: Do This When Life Disappoints You

How do I know if I’m in a relationship with a narcissist?
Are certain personalities more drawn to narcissists?
Can I heal if I was raised by a narcissist?
How do I handle narcissists at work?
Why do I keep attracting narcissists into my life?
How can I keep a narcissist in my life… and not go crazy?
 
And, most of all:
 
What EXACTLY do I do to cope with narcissists?
 
You have been flooding my inbox with questions since Dr. Ramani Durvasula, the world’s leading expert on narcissism, spoke about it on the podcast.
 
You asked to bring her back and I’m listening: Dr. Ramani is here with answers to all of your questions.
 
This episode is for you if you…


Have no idea what narcissism is
Were raised by a narcissist
Are married to a narcissist
Think you might be dating a narcissist
Work with/for a narcissist 
Want to know the telltale red flags so you’re better prepared
Are afraid you’re a narcissist
 
Today you get:


Two important tools to help you start your own healing and create boundaries
Key takeaways to help you move forward
One solid truth that will ground you in your confidence 
 
You’ll also learn:


What you can do today to begin your own healing
How to stay in a relationship with a narcissist and maintain your sanity
The signs to watch for to know if you’re with a narcissist
What gaslighting looks like in real life
The situations that make you more susceptible
How to coach your friend who’s dating a narcissist
If you’re more prone to attracting narcissists
Why you ditch the “good ones” for the “bad ones”
About “trauma bonds” 
The signs of “love bombing”
About the “Golden Goose” phenomenon in the workplace
What yellow rocking and gray rocking are
 
Listen in on today’s conversation. You will not only be glad you did – you’ll also leave armed with the knowledge, tools, and resources you need to diffuse the impact of a narcissist, get your power back, and know that whatever it is that this person says or does – it’s not your fault.
 
Xo, Mel 
 
PS: Once you’re done with this one, if you haven’t had a chance to listen to Dr. Ramani’s first appearance on The Mel Robbins Podcast, absolutely spend some time listening to it:  “5 Signs You’re Dealing With a Narcissist & How To Protect Yourself”

2 Secrets to Handling a Narcissist: A Toolkit for Dealing With Toxic Behavior at Work, Dating, Marriage, and Family (With World-Renowned Dr. Ramani)

A survival guide to adult friendship: how to find your people, have more fun, and create meaningful friendships as an adult.
 
This is the topic you and everyone else are thinking about.
 
From making new friends to staying connected to your old ones, to the thing that’s really hard: what do you do when your friendships start to fade?
 
This is something I’ve been dying to talk to you about because I am right here, shoulder to shoulder with you, feeling lonely, left out, and wondering…
Where did all my friends go?
 
I know I’m not the only one because when I do see my friends or meet someone new, everyone is talking about how they never see their friends anymore.
 
Let’s fix that.
 
I spent a lot of time reflecting on the things that I’m doing that keep me from putting myself out there (which I know I need to do) and did extensive research on the topic.
 
What I discovered is both comforting and empowering. I can’t wait to share it with you.
 
I can boil all of this research down to the 5 lies you and I tell ourselves about friendship.
 
These lies are keeping you from having the best relationships of your life.
 
That’s why you need to hear them.
 
So did I.
 
You also need to hear the truth bombs I’m dropping and the smarty pants research I found to back it all up.
 
Because once you stop repeating these lies, your life will open up again.
 
You’ll have an easier time finding, making, and strengthening your relationships with friends. 
 
And most importantly, your friendships will align with who you really are and what you really want in this chapter of your life.
 
Today it’s just you and me, friend to friend, figuring sh*t out together.
 
So let’s go.
 
Xo Mel

Why Is Adult Friendship So Hard? 5 Lies You Tell Yourself & the Truth You Need to Hear

Today’s conversation is required listening for everyone.

We are going to blow the lid off of emotional triggers.

Let’s get to the bottom of why you and I react the way we do, and more importantly, learn simple ways to take control of our emotions.

It doesn’t matter where you live, how you grew up, or even if you’re a freakin’ saint to everyone else, I know you have something that triggers you.

You have days just like I do when something sets you off and you either snap like a firecracker or withdraw like a turtle in a shell.

And just like me, you say and do things you later regret.

I’ll go first: I’m trying hard to work on the nasty tone of voice I use with Chris and our kids when I feel frustrated or confronted.

And it doesn’t end there. If you’re like me, you beat yourself up for getting triggered, and you now start feeling bad and regret what you did (or the fact that you did nothing).

It makes me feel like crap when I do these things. I have felt helpless for a long time because it’s been so automatic when I get triggered emotionally. 

I don’t want to keep living like this. I’d like to feel calm, peaceful, and more in control.

And that’s what this episode is about. 

Wouldn’t you love to get out of this cycle of feeling emotionally triggered? Wouldn’t you love to take control of your emotional life as an adult?

The good news: you can rewire your response to stressful and annoying situations.

And in turn, you’ll bring more happiness, presence, control, and closer relationships into your life, because you’ll be present in them instead of letting your emotions drive you. 

So, who is going to teach us about triggers?

I’ve tracked down a psychologist who teaches one of the most popular online workshops about this topic:

The incredible Dr. Becky Kennedy.

She’s the #1 New York Times bestselling author of Good Inside. And do not let the fact that she is a child psychologist and parenting expert keep you from soaking up and applying everything you can learn from her.

No matter how old you are right now, YOU were once a child. And that, my friend, is where your triggers got hardwired inside of you: before you even knew how to talk.

Understanding triggers (and taming them) requires you to go back before you can move forward.

Dr. Becky says, “Your triggers are stories from your past.”

Listen to this episode and really try to absorb what Dr. Becky shares, because the wiring and triggers that frustrate you right now are not permanent.

I know you’re going to send this to every one of your friends who is a parent, and please send it to your kids, nieces, and nephews, too. 

Learning how to rewire my response to stress at 54 is amazing. But imagine if you knew how to do this in high school. That’s why I’ve asked our three kids – ages 23, 22, and 17 – to listen too. Sure, it would be nice for us to pass this healing and confidence-building stuff down to every generation, right? If they get this information now, they can rewire themselves faster.

This is really important, life-changing stuff. And I love that it’s also so simple. And you know what else I love? You. Thank you for listening and let me know what you learn.

Xo, Mel

PS: Want to go deeper?

For complete show notes, go to melrobbins.com

One thing that helped me gain control is taking control of my mornings. If you haven’t checked out my free 5-day Wakeup Challenge, let me support you in getting going and creating a better morning. Sign up here.

Why Am I So Triggered? 3 Steps to Control Your Emotions & Rewire Your Response to Stress

You know those days when you just feel “off”? Well, last week, both my friend Amy and I were having bad days.

Thankfully, I had just had an appointment with my amazing therapist that morning.

So, as Amy and I started to talk about why we didn’t “feel like ourselves,” I got this crazy idea that maybe we should invite YOU to join us as the conversation started to unfold.

We decided to turn on a recording device and unpack how we were feeling – on the fly.

I need to say: I stole everything you’re about to hear from my therapist Anne, and you should steal it too.

This is way more than just learning how to put on a happy face.

These tools are truly transformational because they help you tap back into the incredible power within you.

This is a very intimate and special episode that unfolds live.

So I’m inviting you right now: pull up a seat at the kitchen table with Amy and me.

Join us. Don’t just listen, but close your eyes and do the exercises with us.

Do not miss out on what happens near the end. It is magical and I certainly did not see it coming.

And I know you’re going to want to see the cowboy boots: don’t worry, they are in the show notes on my website here.

Xo Mel

Steal This From My Therapist: 2 Steps to Flip a Bad Day Into an Amazing One

Narcissism is on the rise and you need to learn how to spot it in other people and have tools to protect yourself.

We all know those people who constantly turn a conversation toward themselves, who only call you when they want something, and who have a way of making everything someone else’s fault.

Well, guess what? Turns out narcissism goes far beyond that.

I’m telling you right now, even if you THINK you know what a narcissist is, you need to listen.

I thought I knew, yet I’m still reeling from all my breakthrough moments.

Do you have a narcissist in your life?

Maybe you grew up with one.

Maybe you work with one.

Maybe you married one.

Maybe you don’t know what the hell a narcissist is!

Pull up a seat at the table with me because class is IN session.

Narcissism is a term that gets thrown around a lot these days, so how do you know if you’re *really* dealing with a narcissist?

You have been blowing up my email and DMs about this topic, so Dr. Ramani Durvasula is here to answer your questions.

She’s the world’s leading expert on narcissism and someone I’ve followed and admired for years. I love how she breaks down the topic of narcissism in a way that’s understandable, simple, and packed with tools you can apply the second you learn them.

Listen in as she shines a light on the REAL definition of a narcissist and the 5 warning signs you need to know if you’re dealing with one.

This topic is so juicy – and so surprising – that you’re going to be shocked by what you learn. One part in particular will change how you approach narcissists in your life from this day forward.

That’s exactly what happened to me. I have somebody in my life, a very prominent somebody, who absolutely displays narcissistic tendencies, and I have spent years in therapy dealing with it. So I actually got out of my chair and hugged Dr. Ramani after everything she taught me and you in this amazing episode!

If you get something out of this episode, or if you have a friend that has struggled with a narcissist in their life, please share this with them.

And if you think a person is a narcissist, don't even bother sharing, because if there's one thing you're going to learn: you don't want to EVER call one out…

That's just one of the many rules you're going to learn to follow in order to protect yourself from narcissistic behavior.

This episode is jam-packed with teachable moments that will leave you seeing the narcissists in your life with 20-20 insight.

You’ll learn how to not only deal with them but also end this episode with the tools to heal.

And that, my friend, could be the takeaway that changes your life forever.

Xo Mel

For full show notes, visit www.melrobbins.com

5 Signs You’re Dealing With a Narcissist & How to Protect Yourself

How do you know if the thing you’re holding on to is something you should keep fighting for or if it’s time to let go? 
 
Phenomenal question. I’ve got the answer. 
 
The truth is, most of us never let go. 
 
You spend a lot of time adding things into your life – new projects, new relationships, new stuff – but when was the last time you *subtracted* something?
 
I’m talking about all the things you hang on to, even when they’re no longer serving you or helping you grow.
 
The stuff that you know is weighing you down and sucking your energy dry, but you can’t seem to drop it. 
 
I’ve got the solution for you.
 
I’m about to walk you – literally – through a strategy that nobody talks about. It will help you let go of what’s a pain or a drain in your life. 
 
Are you staying in a job you hate?
 
Do you keep hanging out with that friend who brings you down?
 
Holding on to those too-small pants because you’re hoping to one day fit into them again?
 
As the late, great Pulitzer and Nobel prize winner Toni Morrison wrote, if you “want to fly, you got to give up the shit that weighs you down.”
 
By the end of this episode, you’ll understand how to start letting go of what doesn’t serve you to create room for growth.
 
And, you’ll learn the two things you must let go of today.
 
Get ready to step into your new potential and unlock the magic of your life.
 
Aren’t you ready for that? I know I am. Let’s do it!
 
Xo Mel

For full show notes, visit www.melrobbins.com

How to Let Go: 2 Simple Ways to Find Clarity & Move On

Everything you think about anxiety is wrong.
 
Yes, we’re starting there.
 
And yes, we’re going deep.
 
I know that this episode will change your life. It has done the same for mine.
 
It’s not a secret that I’ve struggled with anxiety for pretty much my whole life. I swear I came out of the womb in a full-blown panic attack, and I was just warming up for a life of worry on a very elite, professional level.
 
I have been sharing my anxiety journey, and the tools that have helped me, for the past five years. 
 
And in this episode, things go deeper than they have ever have before.
 
No exaggeration when I say that my takeaway from this interview today is so revolutionary, it’s forever changed the way I think about my anxiety and my relationship to it.
 
Which is why it’s my honor to introduce you to Dr. Russell Kennedy, MD.
 
I’m willing to bet that what you learn today you haven’t heard yet.
 
Like the real reason you’re anxious in the first place.
 
It’s not what you’re thinking.
 
No lie, I’ve been stalking Dr. Kennedy on Instagram for the past year because I just love his stuff. 
 
Like me, he’s lived with his own anxiety since childhood. As a neuroscientist and a medical doctor, he also has the clinical experience to teach us how to HEAL our anxiety.
 
Did you catch that?
 
You don’t have to stop at managing your anxiety; you can actually heal it. 
 
I see you if you’re living with a constant “nervous stomach.”
 
I see you if you can’t sleep. 
 
I see you if your heart races and your muscles are often tense.
 
What Dr. Kennedy shares with you today has changed my relationship to anxiety, and I know it can do the same for you. 
 
It will blow your mind when Dr. Kennedy tells you that we’ve been attacking this all wrong, and he’ll give you simple science and research-backed tools that will change your life immediately! 
 
I ask all the questions you are thinking about anxiety and Dr. Kennedy and I get real with the answers.
 
You are not only going to learn how to deal with your anxiety in a very simple but effective way, you are going to learn why it’s there, what it’s trying to tell you, and how to heal it for good. 
 
This episode has changed my life and I know it will do the same for you and your loved ones. Bookmark this episode and share it with those in your life who need it.
 
It’s time. You deserve what you’re about to learn. 
 
Xo Mel
 
For full show notes, visit www.melrobbins.com

The Truth About Anxiety and How To Heal It: Tools for Anxiety From a Neuroscientist MD

The biggest secret to getting the life you want is understanding 3 words I hope you never forget:
 
Motivation. Is. Garbage.
 
Right now, think about something you want to change or improve.
 
I bet you know WHAT you want to change – and what you need to do.
 
But the 100 million dollar question is: HOW?
 
How do you get started? 
 
And how do you keep going even when you don’t feel like it?
 
Look, if change was easy, we’d all have six-pack abs, a million dollars in the bank, and healed our trauma.
 
And that’s where this episode comes in: I teach you the HOW.
 
I cracked the code on motivation, and in the next hour, I’m sharing everything I know with you. 
 
You’ll learn the secret to breaking old habits, creating new ones, and how to hack what neuroscientists call “activation energy.”
 
You’ll also learn one simple but incredible tool, that’s grounded in decades of research, and will change your life forever. This tool is a “cheat code” for motivation. It’s worked for millions of people and it will for you, too.
 
I wish that what I was about to tell you was something I had read in a book, but unfortunately, that's not how I tend to learn things.
 
I'm the kind of person who either has to fall into a hole that I didn't see to learn a lesson, or more likely, I screw up my life so badly, I dig the hole for myself. 
 
This was me back in 2008. I was digging the biggest life hole ever. And that’s where this episode begins. 
 
I was at the lowest point in my life. My husband’s business was failing, I was unemployed, on the brink of bankruptcy and divorce, I was drinking way too much, and to top it all off, I couldn’t even get up in the morning. Not the Mel Robbins you know today.
 
This is the exact moment I discovered the secret to hacking motivation – because I had to if I wanted to fix my own life. 
 
And if I can do it, you can too.
 
If you're a new listener, you'll learn more about how I got to where I am today. 
 
And if you've been a fan for a while, this episode will be a reminder of the power within you to make any change you can imagine.
 
At the end of the episode, I’ll also give you a free 5-day challenge – The Wake Up Challenge – to walk you through getting started with these tools: www.melrobbins.com/wakeup
 
You won’t believe how simple it is to transform your life, your work, and your attitude. I can’t wait to show you how.
 
Xo Mel

Motivation Is Garbage

How do you find your power when life knocks you down? 
 
What do you do when you are in the middle of an emotional tsunami? 
 
How do you respond when the universe is testing you? 
 
This is the ultimate episode about resilience, confidence, and taking your power back. 
 
Yes, you can take control with simple tools whenever you feel that insecurity spiral kick in. You can pick yourself up, shake off the sh*t, and you can make it a win for you.
 
In this episode, I take you into my life as my 22-year-old daughter gets news that sent her spiraling: her ex was now interested in one of her friends.  
 
This episode unfolds live, over the phone, in real-time, and it is about way more than dealing with heartbreak. 
 
This is for everyone, including you.
 
This is about how you can make those moments of insecurity a win. It’s about finding your confidence when self-doubt comes in. It’s about getting your power back. 
 
And this is also about how you can make better decisions. How to align your actions and reactions with what you want out of life, rather than letting your emotions hijack you.
 
This is powerful stuff. 
 
During this deeply relatable conversation, you’ll laugh, nod along, and probably think of a dozen friends who need to hear this too. My daughter and I unpack the situation live, and you’ll hear Kendall process her feelings, rise above the noise, tap into her power, and start coaching herself forward from a place of confidence and clarity.  
 
Honestly, as her mother, I’m incredibly proud of what she shares in this episode.
 
I want you to listen because I want you to feel empowered too. 
 
In one hour, you will learn how to turn hurt feelings into a WIN for you. You’ll hear the best advice I’ve ever received when life knocked me down, and how you can use it to make your life and your attitude 10X better. 
 
You’ll understand how to break old patterns of self-sabotage and kick them to the curb for good.
 
Holy sh*t…I almost forgot! There is swearing in this episode! If you have any kids around, put those headphones on!
 
And seriously: for anyone in your life struggling with insecurity, do them a favor and remind them of who they are. Send them this episode so they can take their power back.
 
Xo Mel

2 Ways to Take Your Power Back When You Feel Insecure

You can change your life. Period.
 
My mission in this episode is to remind you of who you are and help you tap into the power inside of you. I want you to see something bigger for your life this year. I want to empower you with 3 simple steps you can take to make that vision a reality. 
 
In this episode, you will learn the 3 steps I used to reinvent every aspect of my life over the past two years. I strengthened my relationships, changed my business, improved my mental health, and heck, I even changed where I lived (after 26 years)! I will walk you, step by step, through the story and the process. 
 
I will share how I went from feeling stuck, lost, and overwhelmed two years ago to where I am today: happier than I’ve been in a long time, making big things happen, and having a ball.
 
If I can do it, you can do it. 
 
I’ll walk you through what I did and how I did it. By the end of the episode, you’ll not only feel motivated to improve your life, but you’ll also know the steps to take and HOW to make it happen. And I will make sure you know that you, in fact, deserve to be happy and fulfilled. Yes, YOU.
 
You’ll also hear an amazing and inspiring story from one woman who used these 3 steps to save her life and then, over the past year, take the actions to improve her life and become happier, more confident, and empowered.
 
All of this is here to inspire and empower you to use these same simple steps to create profound change in your life, too.
 
You’ll also learn interesting research about tapping into intrinsic motivation, temporal landmarks, and thinking bigger about your life and the future, using “The Fresh Start Effect” to unlock the confidence to kick your rear end when you need to. 
 
This episode is packed with stories, science, tools, and the motivational fire power you deserve. I am on a mission to remind you of who you are and the power you have inside yourself to change your life.
 
Change is possible. And you can’t convince me otherwise. YOU have the power to change your life through the actions you take every single day. YOU deserve to be happy. 
 
And in case no one tells you today, I love you and I believe in your ability to change your life. Now go get ‘em. ❤️

3 Simple Steps to Change Your Life

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