
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
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Latest episode: Thu Dec 18 2025
Yes, you can get a great girlfriend! And dating coach Connell Barrett will show you how to confidently connect with women by being authentic—no creepy pickup moves needed. On the How to Get a Girlfriend Podcast, Connell offers the kinds of tested dating tips he shared in his bestselling book, Dating Sucks but You Don’t, and in his TV appearances (GMA, “Today.”) In his 12 years as a coach, Connell has helped thousands of men in 17 countries find love. No wonder Psychology Today named him “America’s top dating coach for men.” Connell personally faced—and fixed—every common dating problem, from not knowing how to flirt to dating-app struggles to low self-confidence. After meeting his dream girlfriend Jess, Connell now helps nice guys and gentlemen find love by dating with “Radical Authenticity.” Ready to meet your soulmate? Join Connell and his expert guests every week for game-changing advice. Carpe date ’em. Seize the date!
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Dec18‘I Sent a Voice Note About Her Boobs…to HER! Can I Recover?’ Dating Coach Connell Barrett Breaks It Down31mins
Dec16From Ghosted to Getting Great Dates: The 26 New Rules of Online Dating for 2026 (Part 2)24mins
Dec11Online Dating Is Brutal in 2026—Here Are 26 New Rules to Finally Get Good Matches (Part 1)36mins
Dec4Introducing The 6 Icks: A New Dating Framework to Never Be Creepy—and Always Flirt with Charm35mins
Dec3The Truth about Liquid Courage + 9 Ways to Make Sobriety Your New Edge in Dating (Part 3)37mins
Nov27I Approached Models in Miami Stone-Cold Sober… and Everything Changed (Sober Dating, Part 2 of 3)32mins
Nov25I Chose My Girlfriend Over Johnnie Walker: Love Lessons from 1,000 Days Sober (Part 1)52mins
Nov19Ask the Dating Coach: ‘How Do I Start Conversations with Women without Making It Awkward?’29mins
Nov13The E=MC² of Dating: How to Be Charismatic to Women (Even if You’re Shy or Introverted)26mins
Nov11From Boring to Banter! 5 Flirty Banter Secrets that Create Instant Romantic Chemistry27mins
Nov6“She Dumped Me for Her Ex! What Am I Doing Wrong?” Your Trickiest Dating Questions Answered37mins
Oct30From No Dates to 2 Dates a Week: New Strategies to Fill Your Dating Dance Card30mins
Oct28How a Shy, Lonely Software Engineer Learned to Flirt and Found his Dream Woman—and How You Can, Too!29mins
Oct23“Nice Guys Are Sexy—if They Do This One Thing.” A Maxim Model’s Dating Secret30mins
Oct21How to TRIPLE Your Number of Hinge Matches (with ‘Date Smarter’ Author Tim Molnar)73mins
Oct16Be Magnetic to Women as the Nice Guy You Are—By Doing ONE Thing21mins
Oct14From Reddit Rage to Real Connection: How Ajay Learned that Women Actually Like Good Guys!44mins
Oct9Flip the Authenticity Switch: 4 New Ways to Approach Women IRL (No Pickup Tricks Needed)20mins
Oct7How Shy Robbie Got 5 Numbers in 3 Hours! Steal This Move for Fearless Approaching29mins
Oct25 Fixes to Make Your Online Dating Profile a Match Magnet Today—New Photos NOT Needed29mins
Sep30From Playdates to First Dates: The Single Dad’s Dating Reset (Live Coaching with Zach!)71mins
Sep25Stop! Getting! Ghosted! The 5 Flirting Escalators to Turn First Dates into Second (and Third and Eighth) Dates52mins
Sep23‘My Penis is Small. Should I Have Surgery to Impress Women?’ Dating Coach Connell Barrett Takes Your Questions32mins
Sep18Women Reveal the Truth: Approaching is Charming, Not Creepy—if You Do THIS32mins
Sep16Become a Magnetic Flirt on First Dates in 3 Simple Moves (Live Coaching with Matthew)52mins
Sep11“His Coke Dealer Came to the Date!” 5 Funny Dating Disasters to Keep YOU from Being Her Horror Story36mins
Sep9Will You Find True Love—or End Up Settling? It All Comes Down to ONE Thing42mins
Sep4The Shy Guy’s Advantage: 5 Approaching Secrets to Help Introverts Confidently Connect with Women32mins
Sep3You’re Making a HUGE Mistake on the Apps—Fix It Now! + Steal My Hinge Prompt for More Matches32mins
Aug265 Texting Mistakes Women HATE! + 5 Ninja Text Moves to Get Her Pursuing You57mins
Aug19Women Can Tell If You Watch Too Much Porn—and it’s Destroying Your Dating Life (with Frank Rich)60mins
Aug12Do Women Ignore You on the Apps? Use My ‘Back to the Future’ Opener for a Date by Saturday31mins
Aug7Stop Getting Ghosted! The 10 Texting Commandments that Get Women Writing You Back (Textual Healing, Part 2)49mins
Aug5How to Stop Settling in Love: A Therapist Explains Why You Choose the Wrong Relationships (with Jason VanRuler)44mins
Jul31Spank You Very Much: The Nice Guy’s Guide to Hot, Shame-Free Sex (with Kink Expert Amanda Dames)64mins
Jul29Textual Healing: The New Way to Text and Get Dates—Play, Play, Play… Pull the Trigger (Part 1 of 3)30mins
Jul24The One Flirting Secret that Changes Everything—from Apps to Dates to Charming Approaches65mins
Jul22The Write Stuff: How to Turn Your Boring Bio into a Match Magnet (Live Coaching with Clint)75mins
Jul17The Content Trap: Use My ‘80/20 Rule’ to Go from Overthinking to Effortless Flirting30mins
Jul15The Neuroscience of Attraction: How to Rewire Your Brain for Dating Success (with Harvard’s Dr. Ali Binazir)65mins
Jul10From Invisible to Irresistible: The 7 Dating Superpowers that Ignite Attraction—Even if You’re Shy or Introverted71mins
Jul8The Professional Man’s Paradox: Why You Succeed at Work but Struggle with Women (with Matchmaker Lisa Goodman)44mins
Jul37 Make-or-Break Dating Moments to Either Get the Girl… or Get Friend-Zoned38mins
Jul1Sex Tips for Shy Guys: How to Touch Her, Talk Dirty and Rock Her World (with Sex Coach Kirsten Trammell)65mins
Jun26From Frozen to Fearless! True Stories of Shy Guys Who Beat Approach Anxiety and Found Love IRL52mins
Jun2420 Dating Lessons That Took Me 20 Years to Master—You’ll Learn Them by Lunch (Special Series!)49mins
Jun19The Speed Dating Move that Drives Women Wild: Why Vulnerability Wins Every Time (Featuring Kavita Ajwani)47mins
Jun17Textual Healing! Connell’s 4-Part Texting Formula to Stop Getting Ghosted and Start Getting Dates61mins
Jun10I Got Rejected 567 Times… Which is Why I’m GREAT with Women Now38mins
Jun5The Flirty Dozen: 12 Ways to Smash Out of the Friend Zone and Spark Connection on First Dates59mins
Jun3How to Be Bold, Flirty—and Never, Ever ‘That Creepy Guy’: A Dating Guide for Modern Gentlemen48mins
May2927 Flirting Tips in 27 Minutes! Go from the Friend Zone to the First Kiss—FAST31mins
May27Use these 8 Flirty Questions to Stop Boring Women and Spark Deep, Romantic Conversations34mins
May22Scared to Make a Move? How to Read Women & Know When to Go For It (Featuring Kezia Noble!)43mins
May20Tongue-Tied with Women? Become a Funny Flirt with 3 Simple Moves and Get Her Giggling! (Live Coaching with Jake)60mins
May15From Dateless to Dates on Demand! How to Improve Your Profile and Get 2 Dates Per Week (Part 4 of 4)48mins
May137 Powerful Secrets to Attraction that Women Have Taught Me (You Need to Know These!)24mins
May8Do Women on Tinder Ignore You? The Man Who Invented Swiping Reveals How to Finally Get Matches (with Tinder’s Jonathan Badeen)59mins
May6This Simple Move Makes You 500% Better at Approaching—Science Proves It! (Featuring ‘Date Smarter’ Author Tim Molnar)73mins
May1From Lonely to Lining Up Dates: 6 Simple Moves that Make Women Swipe Right on the Apps (Part 3)53mins
Apr29Unlock the 3 S’s for Unshakable Confidence—and Attract the Women You Want!36mins
Apr24Get Ready to Love, Love, LOVE the Dating Apps! 6 Profile Fixes for More Matches Fast (Part 2 of 4)40mins
Apr22Do Women Ignore You on the Apps? These 12 Profile MUSTS Will Finally Get You Great Matches (Part 1 of 4)49mins
Apr17‘I Went from Lonely to Dating Like Crazy!’ How Kyle Attracted His First Girlfriend in Years, and How You Can Too (Live Coaching)57mins
Apr15Ask the Dating Coach: ‘I Don’t Think I’m Good-Looking. Do I Even Have a Chance with Women?’35mins
Apr10Tired of Struggling on Tinder and Bumble? Try the Innovative Dating App that Helps Men and Women Connect IRL!40mins
Apr8Too Anxious to Approach? Use these 5 Steps to Boldly Meet and Date Wonderful Women (Live Coaching with Ryan)94mins
Apr3Women Love Nice, Nerdy Guys like YOU—If You Do 1 Important Thing (with Dating Coach Nick Notas)63mins
Apr1From ‘I’m Too Short’ to ‘I Feel Amazing!’ How to Transform Your Dating Confidence NOW (Live Coaching with Ryan)102mins
Mar27You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You59mins
Mar25Ignore These 5 Dating Lies—Or Stay Single Forever!63mins
Mar20Why You Freeze When You Want to Approach Beautiful Women—& How to Fix it NOW (Live Coaching with John!)69mins
Mar18Forget Pickup Lines: Why Vulnerability is Your Dating Superpower (with Lisa Hickey of the Good Men Project)64mins
Mar133 Hidden Reasons Why Women Lose Interest in You—and How to Keep Them Attracted Long-Term! with Johnny Cassell65mins
Mar11The 7 ‘Friend Zone’ Destroyers: Go from Hearing ‘Let’s Be Friends’ to ‘Let’s Go to Your Place!’33mins
Mar6Tired of Swiping? How Matchmaking Can Set You Up with Incredible Women (Ditch the Apps for Good!)57mins
Mar4How to NEVER Run Out of Things to Say: The 7 Best Banter Topics to Instantly Attract Women29mins
Feb27How to Make Bold Moves without Being Creepy: A Top Coach for Women Tells All! (with Evan Marc Katz)67mins
Feb25Does Love (and Life) Feel Like a Grind? The ‘3 Classes of Experience’ Will Set You Free44mins
Feb20It’s Rom-Complicated! How Nice Guys Can Get the Girl: Lessons from ‘Say Anything’ (with Hollywood Producer Cristina Nava)80mins
Feb18My Girlfriend Jess Reveals the #1 Secret to Landing Second Dates! (Most Men Make 3 BIG Mistakes)48mins
Feb16“Let Her Kick Rocks!”—How to Turn Rejection into Results (and Dates) with No-B.S. Love Expert Sabrina Zohar57mins
Feb15LIVE Approaches: Hear Me Chat Up Cuties IRL—Listen NOW to Get Numbers and Dates Tonight! (Part 4)116mins
Feb14Say This, Get the Date (No Flaking!) How To Never Run Out of Things to Say (Part 3 of 4)67mins
Feb13Struggle Talking to Women IRL? My 3 Openers (90% Success Rate!) Fix that Instantly (Part 2 of 4)74mins
Feb12Special Series! Stop Trying to ‘Approach’—Do THIS to Meet & Attract Women IRL the Right Way (Part 1 of 4)81mins
Feb9Tired of Being Ignored on Dating Apps? Steal My 10 Best Flirty Openers: #1 Works 81% of the Time!54mins
Feb7What’s YOUR Dating Superpower? Discover the 7 Attractors that Make Women Want to Date You71mins
Feb6Struggling with Dating Confidence? Try this Mindset Shift to Become Instantly Magnetic to Women (Live Coaching Results)76mins
Feb5How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction54mins
Feb4How to Meet Your Dream Woman—and How Jason Dated a Lakers Cheerleader! (Live Coaching)61mins
Feb3Introducing ‘It’s Rom-Complicated!’ How to Find Love by Watching Rom-Com Movies (Seriously!) Episode 1: ‘Groundhog Day’68mins
Jan30“I Went from Zero to 83 Matches in a Week!” The 6 Essential Photos You Need for Dating App Success30mins
Jan28“Will You Be My Boyfriend?” The 10 Green Lights that Trigger Instant Attraction in Wonderful Women51mins
Jan23Exclusive! How to Win on Dating Apps—Secrets from the Man Who Invented Swiping, Tinder’s Jonathan Badeen53mins
Jan2110 Invisible Red Flags that Get You Rejected: Which Mistakes Are YOU Making? Plus 10 Fast Fixes41mins
Jan16What to Write on Your Bio: 7 Secrets for Way More Matches! Plus: Steal These 10 Funny, Flirty Prompts29mins
Jan14Ask the Dating Coach: ‘HELP! She Wants Me to Baa Like a Sheep During Sex. What Do I Do?’42mins
Jan9Dating Apps Are Broken—Inner Circle is the Fix! Find Love Using this Innovative App (Featuring David Vermeulen)40mins
Jan7Forget Resolutions! Here's Your New Year's REVOLUTION: 5 Game-Changing Dating Strategies to Attract Your Ideal Girlfriend in 202577mins
Jan2From 10 Years of Loneliness to Landing His Dream Girl Allie: How Jake Found Love—and How You Can, Too!65mins
Dec31Which Dating App is Right for YOU? The Top 7 Apps to Swipe Right on Love and Find Your Soulmate29mins
Dec24Bummed About NO Good Matches on the Apps? These 15 Quick Fixes Will Turn Your Profile into a Match Magnet (Live Coaching with Zach)72mins
Dec19From Lonely to Locking Lips: My 25 Tested Approach Moves to Kiss a Total Cutie on New Year’s Eve29mins
Dec17Make Her Your Girlfriend in Just 3 Dates (Seriously!) Live Coaching with Jack72mins
Dec13Stop Settling TODAY! How to Crush Self-Doubt and Attract the Special Woman You Deserve — Featuring Garrain Jones67mins
Dec11Stuck in Your Head at the Bars? How to Confidently Approach and Talk to Women—Even if You’re Shy (Live Coaching with Eric!)91mins
Dec7From Dull to Dynamic: How Passion and Authenticity Make You Magnetic to Women, Featuring John R. Miles54mins
Dec41,000 First Dates Later: My Top 7 Easy Moves to Escape the Friend Zone and Get Her Asking You for Date No. 255mins
Nov29Approach Her with Easy Confidence: Top Dating Expert Kezia Noble on How to Attract Women In Real Life37mins
Nov27Live Coaching Session: Connell’s Client Matt Conquers His Fear of Approaching—and Gets 2 Phone Numbers!64mins
Nov24How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)63mins
Nov23Bestselling Author Dr. Robert Glover on How to Confidently Meet Women without Being Too Nice (Encore Episode)80mins
Nov22My Girlfriend Tells All! How We Connected on Our First Date (Featuring My Amazing Partner Jessamin) Part 5 of 548mins
Nov21The New Way to Confidently Approach and Connect with Women (Part 4 of 5)49mins
Nov20How to Write Irresistible Openers on the Apps + The Easy Way to Text and Get Dates (Part 3 of 5)49mins
Nov19You’re Flirting Wrong: The New Way to Talk to Women + 5 Flirting Fails to Avoid (Part 2 of 5)55mins
Nov18How to Attract Your Dream Girlfriend by Dating with Radical Authenticity—Part 1 of a Special Series63mins
Oct24How to Know Exactly What to Say When You Approach… & NEVER Get Rejected26mins
Oct213 Dating App Mistakes to Avoid! Plus: Steal the Flirty, 12-Word Opener that Gets Women Replying32mins
Sep23The 7 Deadly Dating Myths to Avoid30mins
Jun23How to Use Emojis to Send Flirty Texts and Get Dates ;)27mins
May20How I Went from Dateless to Dating Wonderful Women! The Power of Radical Authenticity41mins
May1510 Flirty Questions to Ask Women When You Approach25mins
Apr15The Top 10 Flirting Mistakes You Make… and 10 Instant Fixes!39mins
Apr12Ask the Dating Coach: “HELP! A Catfish Has My Nude Pics and is Blackmailing me for $1,000!”24mins
Apr8The NEW Way to Flirt with Women: 10 Tested Tips to Make Sparks Fly33mins
Mar26Ask the Dating Coach: ‘I’m Short! Should I Have My Legs Broken to Help Me Get Dates?’23mins
Mar22How to Get Over a Breakup, with ‘Letting Go of Your Ex’ author Cortney Warren49mins
Mar18How NOT to Be Creepy: The 7 Mistakes Men Make that Creep Women Out28mins
Mar125 “Aha!” Moments that Took Me from Dateless to Dating Wonderful Women29mins
Feb23Ask the Dating Coach Mailbag52mins
Feb20Hinge and Humor: The Top 10 Funniest Prompts to Get Matches and Dates on Hinge31mins
Jan22The 5 Dating Superpowers: Use these 5 powerful moves for more dates and more confidence…instantly!37mins
Jan15The Top 10 Flirting Moves You Need to NOW to Make Sparks Fly with Wonderful Women37mins
Jan9LIVE COACHING! Nate Learns the Right Way to Text Women, How to Get Out of His Head on Dates, and More!59mins
Jan5Client Transformation! How John went from LOW Confidence to Dating INCREDIBLE Women…and How You Can, Too46mins
Jan2LIVE COACHING! What to Say When You Approach Women, to Be Charming and NOT Creepy60mins
Dec135 Ways to Flirt, Connect and Make Sparks Fly with Your Ideal Woman25mins
Dec8The 6 Game-Changing Photos to Get More Matches on the Apps24mins
Nov28A Dating Coach Rates the Rom-Coms: ‘Love Actually’24mins
Nov17Struggling with Flirting? How To Go from Brutally Boring to Confidently Charismatic39mins
Nov14My 7 Biggest “Aha!” Dating Moments… Revealed41mins
Nov107 Flirting Secrets Women Want You to Know with Melanie Sutrathada54mins
Nov7Sober Dating, Part 2: 7 Ways to Confidently Attract Women, without Using Alcohol37mins
Oct31Sober Dating, Part 1: How I (Finally!) Quit Drinking, and How YOU Can Confidently Date without Booze34mins
Oct2415 Dating Tips in 15 Minutes!28mins
Oct205 Ways to Be More FUN with Women and Escape the Friend Zone41mins
Oct173 Dreaded First-Date Mistakes to Avoid, and What to Do Instead25mins
Oct13For Dating Confidence, Unleash the Power of Radical Authenticity26mins
Oct10Use these 5 Escalation Secrets to Escape the Dreaded Friend Zone24mins
Oct6How to Become a Man of Authentic Action… and Attract Your Soulmate27mins
Oct3The Power of Presence: 6 Ways to Get Out of Your Head and Flirt with Charm32mins
Sep29Do THIS to Make Dating a Lot Less Painful and a Lot More Fun22mins
Sep26The Magic Move to Get Quality Online-Dating Matches31mins
Sep22Use these 5 Moves for Great First Dates27mins
Sep19How to Become a Man of Action29mins
Sep15Lip Service: 7 Ways to Confidently Go for the First Kiss39mins
Sep12How to Charm Beautiful Women: 7 Simple Flirting Moves28mins
Sep8Use the “3 Times Rule” and Stop Getting Ghosted37mins
Sep5Are You Man Enough to Be Feminine? How to Truly Connect with Women31mins
Sep1Risky Business: For Instant Confidence, Become a Bold Risktaker26mins
Aug29“How Do I Get More Dates on the Apps?” Your online-dating questions answered!40mins
Aug25Revealed! The 4 Pillars of Instant Dating Confidence36mins
Aug22How to Flirt with Women: the Wrong Way (DON’T do this) and the Right Way!30mins
Aug1511 Ways to Make Dating Fun & Get More Dates NOW33mins
Aug11Ask the Dating Coach! “Help! How Do I Stop Getting Friend Zoned on First Dates?”38mins
Aug8How to Make Her Your Girlfriend, in 7 Easy Moves30mins
Aug4The Right Way to Approach Women, with Confidence and Charm26mins
Aug18 Tested Tips to Escape “Interview Mode” on Dates and Create a Connection31mins
Jul28The 5 Super Shifts to Gain Confidence and Start Attracting Wonderful Women28mins
Jul25Do THIS to Be Fun and Flirty on Dates + 5 More Myths Busted33mins
Jul217 Dating Disasters to Avoid: How to Connect with Women in the #MeToo Era, Part 224mins
Jul18Consent is Sexy! How to Connect with Women in the #MeToo Era, Part 135mins
Jul14“Women Only Want Hot Guys” + 4 Other Dating Myths Demolished!38mins
Jul11LIVE COACHING! The secret to avoiding awkward silences on dates + how to go for the kiss67mins
Jul74 Ways to Stop Fearing Rejection and Start Feeling Confident36mins
Jul6LIVE COACHING! How to Be More Attractive to Women TODAY, using the ‘Confidence Code’75mins
Jun30What’s Your Dating Superpower? 6 Ways to Spark Connections!26mins
Jun277 First Date Outfits for Men, with style expert Riane Bawalan37mins
Jun23Your biggest dating problems… solved!37mins
Jun2021 Dating Tips for Introverts, with Amber Brooks, editor of DatingAdvice.com47mins
Jun169 Advanced Dating Moves! Plus: How to Ask for a Number28mins
Jun13How to Be a Better Man, Featuring Alex Manley, author of “The New Masculinity”67mins
Jun9First Date Topics to Create a Strong Connection23mins
Jun6How to Be an Attractive Man, with Dr. Robert Glover and “The Big Stick” Author Tony Endelman89mins
Jun2How to Describe Yourself on a Dating App: 15 Moves for More Matches37mins
May3012 Tips on Dating as an Introverted Man, with Anthony Recenello87mins
May26How to Start a Conversation on a Dating App: 23 Quick Tips!25mins
May23First Date Tips for Guys: 27 Tips to Make Sparks Fly51mins
May19How to Be More Confident with Women? Become Radically Authentic!54mins
May15LIVE COACHING! How to Get Out of the Friend Zone on Dates and Make Sparks Fly64mins
May12How to Date Wonderful Women without Approaching or Using Apps75mins
May9How to Be Flirty and Funny—and Never Run Out of Things to Say23mins
May5LIVE COACHING! How Connell’s client went from fearful to confidently approaching women…and getting dates!88mins
May2From nerdy to flirty! How to stop doubting yourself and attract your dream girlfriend (with Brian Pippard)67mins
Oct6How To Be a Confident Man52mins
Sep30How to Start a Conversation on a Dating App60mins
Sep29How To Talk To Women62mins
Sep29What Women Want In Men66mins
Sep27How to Flirt with Girls Online59mins
Sep27How to Gain Confidence and Attract Your Dream Girlfriend75mins
Apr28Pilot3mins