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Secret Service Agent: Never Label Someone A Narcissist! This Habit Makes People Hate Talking To You!

The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett

DOAC

December 1, 2025

Show Notes

Ex-Secret Service interrogator DESMOND O’NEILL reveals the 4-step formula for difficult conversations, how to decode narcissism, the secret to communication and real connection - AND debunks the biggest myths about interrogation! Desmond O’Neill is a former special agent for the US Secret Service with over 30 years of experience in negotiation and interrogation. He has worked for the High-Value Detainee Interrogation Group (HIG) training and conducting research on interrogation, and is a co-instructor for the online platform ‘Beyond Bulletproof’, covering influence, communication, and confidence. He explains: ◼️Why you should never label someone a narcissist ◼️The No.1 habit silently ruining your communication ◼️Why “me me me” syndrome is sabotaging your relationships ◼️How gaslighting really works, and how to shut it down fast ◼️Why your brain lies to you when emotions take over Intro What Are Your Experiences? Experience With Violent Interrogation How Do I Have a Difficult Conversation? How to Spot When Someone Is Gaslighting You PLAN Framework The Hardest Conversations You've Had to Navigate If They Do This, They're Lying Be a Better Listener Controlling Comes From Listening, Not Talking Asking Questions Obvious Body Language to Look Out For Finding Resolution With People What if They Start Insulting You How to Keep Your Emotions in Check How to Stay in Control Me Me Me Syndrome Ads How to Get Someone to Open Up The Difference Between Manipulation and Influence Influencing People How to Build Trust How Do You Get Trust Back? How to Be a Great Leader Making Decisions Own Your Decisions Ads Building Rapport Main Takeaways Don't Tell People You Understand What Decision Do You Most Regret? You can learn more about ‘Beyond Bulletproof’, here: https://bit.ly/43SKyMW The Diary Of A CEO: ◼️Join DOAC circle here - https://doaccircle.com/ ◼️Buy The Diary Of A CEO book here - https://smarturl.it/DOACbook ◼️The 1% Diary is back - limited time only: https://bit.ly/3YFbJbt ◼️The Diary Of A CEO Conversation Cards (Second Edition): https://g2ul0.app.link/f31dsUttKKb ◼️Get email updates - https://bit.ly/diary-of-a-ceo-yt ◼️Follow Steven - https://g2ul0.app.link/gnGqL4IsKKb Sponsors: Adobe - https://Adobe.Ly/OneBetter Rubrik: To learn more, head to https://rubrik.com Function Health: https://Functionhealth.com/DOAC to sign up for $365 a year. One dollar a day for your health.
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