Show Notes
Divorce attorney James Sexton has a theory: the smartest thing you can do before you get married is think like someone whose job is ending marriages. Today, James joins Nicole for part one of a two-part conversation, sharing what you need to know before you say "I do." Make sure you're subscribed to Money Rehab so you don't miss part two in a few weeks, where they get into what you need to know before you get divorced.
James unpacks why every couple needs a prenup, and shares the wildest prenup clause he's ever seen. He also gets into what actually makes fidelity and sex clauses hold up in court, and why most DIY prenups fall apart long before they're ever tested.
Then Nicole and James zoom out to the stuff that can predict divorce long before anyone hires a lawyer: the small, unsexy daily habits that keep a relationship alive, and the financial fights that are never really about the money. Plus, James explains why he thinks couples should see a divorce attorney before they get married, and as weird as it sounds… we agree.
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Here's what Nicole covers with James:
Are You Ready for Some Money Rehab?
Why James Chose Divorce Law (Not the Money)
Has Divorce Law Soured James on Romance?
James's Own Marriage, Divorce, and Dating Life Now
Why You Should Talk to a Divorce Attorney Before You Marry
The Small Habits That Keep a Relationship Alive
What Actually Ends Marriages
Should Marriage Have a Higher Bar to Entry?
Is Your Prenup Actually Enforceable?
The $10,000-a-Pound Prenup Clause: A True Story
DIY Prenups and What Not to Skip
Fidelity Clauses and Sex Clauses
Do Prenups Actually Prevent Divorce?
Why the Prenup Conversation Is Secretly Romantic
The Story of the Lemons: Why Positional Bargaining Fails
The Most Toxic Financial Fights in Relationships
What Money Can (and Can't) Buy
Coming Up: James's Divorce Advice in Part Two
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