Dr. K: Feeling Lost in Your 20s or 30s? (THIS Mindset Shift Will Help You Find Direction & Purpose)
from On Purpose with Jay Shetty
by iHeartPodcasts
Published: Mon Sep 22 2025
Show Notes
Do you ever feel lost?
What usually helps you find your way back?
Today, Jay sits down with @HealthyGamerGG (Dr. K), psychiatrist, meditation teacher, and author of How to Raise a Healthy Gamer, for an eye-opening conversation about why so many young people feel lost and disconnected in today’s world. Together, they uncover the hidden struggles millions face: loneliness, confusion, and the constant pressure of feeling “behind in life,” even when everything looks fine on the outside. Dr. K shares how shifting milestones and rising societal pressures have fueled an epidemic of uncertainty, leaving many to question their worth, direction, and identity.
Together, Jay and Dr. examine how ego, technology, and external expectations shape the way we see ourselves. Drawing on neuroscience, psychology, and Eastern philosophy, Dr. K explains how the constant search for validation traps us in cycles of comparison and self-criticism. He offers practical tools for breaking free, learning to tell the difference between “thinking about yourself” and truly “paying attention to yourself,” observing emotions without attaching heavy meaning to them, and discovering peace in stillness. This conversation is a powerful reminder that the way out of overwhelm isn’t found in doing or achieving more, but in cultivating clarity and connection within.
They dive into the challenges of masculinity, purpose, relationships, and the many forms of modern addiction, from pornography to overwork. Dr. K emphasizes that true healing begins with embracing discomfort, processing the emotions we’ve long avoided, and choosing our own values rather than living by society’s script.
In this interview, you'll learn:
How to Overcome a Quarter-Life Crisis
How to Tell The Difference Between Identity and Identification
How to Stop Feeling Behind in Life
How to Pay Attention Instead of Overthinking
How to Quiet the Ego’s Voice
How to Process Painful Emotions Safely
How to Build Healthier Relationships with Boundaries
How to Reduce the Grip of Technology on Your Mind
Growth doesn’t come from racing toward milestones or comparing yourself to others, but from learning to pause, pay attention, and listen to what’s happening within. Every challenge you face can be a doorway to deeper clarity, resilience, and peace.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:
Intro
Are You Having a Quarter-Life Crisis?
Why You Really Feel Behind in Life
Thinking About Yourself vs. Paying Attention to Yourself
Discovering the True Source of Suffering
Why Chasing Growth Isn’t Real Growth
Remember You Always Have a Choice
How to Stop Living for Others’ Opinions
The Brain’s Natural Ability to Heal
Learning to Let Go of Ego
Living in a World Where People Feel Replaceable
Why Is Modern Dating So Difficult?
It’s Never Too Late to Turn Your Life Around
What is True Masculinity Today?
Common Challenges Women Face Today
Rising from Judgment to Understanding
How to Become a Better Partner
There’s Not Just One Path to Growth
How Emotions Shape Your Behavior
The Hidden Root of Pornography Addiction
The Harmful Effects of Pornography
Steps to Prevent Pornography Addiction
Making Better Choices That Lead to Purpose
Paying Attention Within to Find Clarity
Dissolving Ego Through Service
Dr. K on Final Five
Episode Resources:
Check out more from Dr.K on the HealthyGamerGG Podcast https://open.spotify.com/show/6VaJwyS2KXxiXqR77jqzmP?si=2fbfbaece86441a4
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